I'm posting this because two things happened this week and it really brought me down... and i just wanted to talk about self esteem...
Self-esteem issues seems to be one of the strongest emotions that challenge many women today. It has become a woman's first worry when she awakens, and her last worry before she sleeps.
It is said that we are all born with a natural self-esteem, but through the worlds concerns about power and control, we have been trained to worry about what others think of us and how we can please them. We have forgotten how to love ourselves and treat ourselves with respect. We are taught that loving ourselves is selfish and will only make us appear conceited, which will turn people off. If we are not allowed to learn how to love ourselves, then how can we learn to allow others to love us? We cannot feel love and positive esteem for ourselves if we focus all of it on others first. If we do, we then run the risk of offering all of our inner feelings to someone and not getting anything in return. At this point we begin to feel resentment, cheated and even lower in our ability to ever love again.
People that have scars from resentment and abuse are the hardest people to love. They have the highest low self-esteem walls to climb. In short, they are unreachable. This is not a good thing at all.
When a person says in all honesty that they are suffering from a low self-esteem issue, I take that very seriously. This is a true cry for help. They are at the bottom of their pit and are asking for help to get out. They are at a point where they will expect you to love them and take care of them as they would themselves. In other words, we all know the worst thing a person can do is expect their partner to be a mind reader.
Well, when a person is suffering from a low self-esteem, trust me, they do expect just that. They will expect for you to just know what they need. They only have faith in you. They have lost faith in themselves long ago and they have no recourse. This places a very huge burden on your shoulders as their partner. This is not a good thing!
No one will ever be able to feel what another person feels inside. No one will ever be able to love another as they can love themselves. No one can read our minds. No one can do for us, what needs to be done to make us feel inner peace. It is our responsibility to ourselves to love us first. You really must know who you are to start. To be able to fulfill your needs and desires and goals in life, you need to identify with your wants. You cannot do any of this if you do not focus on you. You need to be all about you for a time. No one can do this for you, so just do it!
This is called finding your space. Your space is a very, very important place to just find yourself in peace with no distractions. Just you and your thoughts. Learning about your self-esteem also means that you must come to terms with this question, "How badly do you want to have a higher self-esteem" ? If you really want it, then you will find it. You have been trained to un-love yourself, so it is not impossible to retrain yourself to love you again. Your environment is also important in helping you feel positive vibes. For you to truly accept yourself unconditionally, you must look beyond the simple quick fix motto's that are plaguing television and magazines, such as diets that will make you a better you, or take this pill and you will be a new you. Ugh, there are so many misconceptions out there. It seriously boils down to your mind and your heart. Love yourself as you want to be loved. Love yourself as you want to love someone! Just be you! That is a very good thing!
Remember, "HABITS"? Well that's exactly what you need to do. Create loving you habits and respecting you habits. Think of it as your very first self-esteem day. You wake up, you stretch and hug your partner or just yourself. Even hugging your pillow is a good hug. You have no memory of any other feelings. You love yourself. You have no other intention but to take care of you. You look in the mirror and stick your tongue out and roll your eyes inward and smile! Smile at you because you love who you are. Ti's a very good thing to be able to smile at you for no other reason than it is good to be you!
Please do not get me wrong here. Life will still challenge you with its ups and downs. You will still have to deal with all the negative things that your day will unravel. But the difference is, you will be doing it from clear, fresh, positive self-esteem eyes. Nothing will defeat you in the end. Oh, it may give you a run for your money, but you will override all of it with your smiles and love for yourself. Imagine the confidence that will shine inside of you. Your reactions will be out of love and understanding. They will no longer be from resentment and hate. This is a good thing!
Remember also that anything worth having does not come easily. Once it has been attained or learned, it remains forever. This too is a good thing! Many women have experienced the highs and the lows of self-esteem, you are so not alone in this battle to find a better you!
To finally have the gift of self-esteem will not bring you happiness, that is something that comes after. But it will bring you a deep awareness of who you are. A new respect for you. A genuine love for yourself and the confidence to soar! Finding your self-esteem saves your world, not anyone else's. But it does give you the strength to help others to find theirs. So Ladies, please follow me into the world of a very high self-esteem.
HUGGGGZZZZZZZ~D~
Dorothy Lafrinere
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Friday, July 8, 2011
The X-Pole Dance Pole
By Danielle Brown
There are new trends in today’s world that many of us are proud of, then you will find those trends that a lot of individuals are not proud of and the opinion alternate from person to person. Not everyone shares the same opinion and there is nothing wrong with that – that is one of the features that makes us all different. There is nothing wrong with thinking different. This article is for those individuals who do not mind pole dancing. We believe pole dancing is a unique dance that is starting to become pretty popular into today’s world. Pole dancing can turn you into a unique and beautiful person, then it can turn you into a person with bad morals. It all depends on how you use it. You can either use and abuse the pole, or you can gain benefits out of it. Amongst pole dancing, you have the X-Pole. Have you ever heard of it? We are aware that many of you think of pole dancing as something that you will only find in a strip club, but believe it or not – you will be able to have a pole in your house. If you have always wanted to try out pole dancing, but you never
wanted to do it in front of strangers or even friends, then you may be happy to know that you are finally going to get your chance. The great thing is that you will be able to do pole dancing in your home for the first time. This is all thanks to the X Pole Dancing Pole. There are many different types of dance poles out there, but if you would like a pole that fits perfect in your home, then you should turn to the X-pole. The strip clubs in your area that have dance poles…we know you have probably never paid attention to the poles, but those may just be the X-pole dance pole. This is because X-pole dance poles put out some really great dance poles that are perfect for anyone. If you have always wanted a dance that lights up, then you will be able to find it. When you are looking for the X pole website, it is not that hard to find. All you have to do is type
‘X-pole dance pole’ into the search engine of your choice and within seconds, depending on how fast your Internet is, you will come face to face with the X-pole dance pole website. As you are looking at the X-pole dance pole website, you will find many different poles that are made by X-pole. Also, on their website,
you will see statements that around December of 2008, due to the economic crisis in the world, especially the United States, the X-poles may be going up in price anywhere from ten percent to twenty percent. We believe you should grab your X-pole dance pole while the prices are still on the cheap side, before they raise the prices.
wanted to do it in front of strangers or even friends, then you may be happy to know that you are finally going to get your chance. The great thing is that you will be able to do pole dancing in your home for the first time. This is all thanks to the X Pole Dancing Pole. There are many different types of dance poles out there, but if you would like a pole that fits perfect in your home, then you should turn to the X-pole. The strip clubs in your area that have dance poles…we know you have probably never paid attention to the poles, but those may just be the X-pole dance pole. This is because X-pole dance poles put out some really great dance poles that are perfect for anyone. If you have always wanted a dance that lights up, then you will be able to find it. When you are looking for the X pole website, it is not that hard to find. All you have to do is type
‘X-pole dance pole’ into the search engine of your choice and within seconds, depending on how fast your Internet is, you will come face to face with the X-pole dance pole website. As you are looking at the X-pole dance pole website, you will find many different poles that are made by X-pole. Also, on their website,
you will see statements that around December of 2008, due to the economic crisis in the world, especially the United States, the X-poles may be going up in price anywhere from ten percent to twenty percent. We believe you should grab your X-pole dance pole while the prices are still on the cheap side, before they raise the prices.
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Friday, June 17, 2011
Finding True Love Through Intimacy
A lot of people have been asking about true love; is there such a thing; if so, what is it? Is it attainable; if so, how attainable is it? If it were just love, I wouldn’t have so much difficulty. But, true love?
Talking about true love is risky business. I can imagine taking a poll, going around asking people who are looking for true love what it is they’re looking for and getting different answers and a lot of “I don’t knows.” Given its subjective nature, it always comes down to one’s interpretation or experience. A never-ending number of questions always seem to get raised.
Let’s establish that what we are talking about when we say ‘true love’ would not be referring to how a parent might feel towards his or her child or a child towards a parent, between siblings. The more traditional connotation of true love leans to, at very least, an emotionally intimate relationship, one that lasts a lifetime. It may be platonic, it may sexual. But for the purposes of this discussion we will first explore what may be some common core elements of true love and of true love that includes sexual intimacy.
As we continue the discussion about what true love is, we will see that a number of related questions are raised.
Is true love, love at first sight? Or, does it come later in the relationship?
True love may and often does begin during the initial encounter, when two people are meeting for the first time. However, the spontaneous, eye-to-eye spark, when time gets compressed, when an irrepressible stirring suddenly before they even talk happens more often in the movies, quite rarely in reality.
After ‘…first sight,’ the two people will eventually have to talk to each other. For then, they will get to see how they feel being together. That spark will either ignite or be kaput, depending on how it feels to be together, which is largely determined by the quality of their rapport. The highest high can go to the lowest low in the blink of an eye.
It is possible that when there is rapport, some kind of mutual discovery occurs; that they like being together (a lot), that they like each other (a lot), that they have this incredible chemistry, that they communicate about anything and everything; and that this turns them on even more. They can become quite excited by their rapport, but when attraction, desire and sex enter the picture, their excitement is further peaked.
Is true love a matter of luck or something that was “meant to be”?
Whether or not it was a matter of luck or their destiny to end up together, there is a strong likelihood that there was an initial rapport. It’s not luck when conscious intention meets purposeful action. It doesn’t just happen. Two people make it happen.
Rapport is a joint effort creation -- two who are people united in purpose, who place a high value getting to know what each other thinks and feels, who want to connect deeply, and are doing so.
During a rapport, there is a bridging of experience, understanding is achieved. Let’s establish one criteria of true love as being able to say, “We understand each other,” which often begins during the initial encounter.
Along with the ability to achieve a deep mutual understanding is comes a variety of other pleasant surprises. When gazing into each other’s eyes and communicating on a deep level, the feeling of knowing one another elevates the level of excitement. “We know each other like no one else does.”
For some, the experience of being able to be completely open, free and understood may be the highest of all highs.
How long does true love last? Does it fade over time?
It is reasonable to assume that if they did it once, they could do it again. However, there are no guarantees. What bears out in reality is that true love will last as long as both people are able to continue to communicate intimately. It may work to look at each and every encounter as a relationship in itself, independent of the others. It may also be considered that when there is consistency over time, the continuity will deepen their relationship, strengthen their bond.
Is true love the same thing as ‘being in love?’ Being with that special someone? Being number one? Being turned on? Having great sex?
What does it feel like? Is it a high or rather mundane? Does it have substance or is it merely a bundle of excitement?
Is it a long plateau of fixed contentment, like being “happy ever after?” Or, is it a never-ending, ever-deepening journey fraught with relationship threatening challenges?
Answering the above questions will require that some important distinctions be made beginning with true love versus ‘being in love.’ Being in love is an altered state of mind. It is a peak experience – exciting, intense… and temporary, tantamount to being high, running on adrenalin.
When ‘in love,’ two people may feel extremely turned on to each other, but how intimate they are is another question. They may feel clear-headed and certain about each other while they’re in love, while forgetting that they’re looking at each other through the lens of idealization, and are often disillusioned and overwhelmed when reality sets in. They are expecting, assuming or hoping that their altered state of mind will last indefinitely. Chances are they don’t have the experience in relationships that would tell them real intimacy is lacking or hasn’t yet been achieved and/or that they haven’t yet been challenged by negative feelings, conflicts or differences. It is more likely to be that they are basking in the false security of their distorted perception.
Another important distinction is true love and great sex.
Confusion is evident in the words often used to describe our sexual encounters. “We were intimate.” “We made love.” Physical or sexual intimacy becomes synonymous with true love or emotional intimacy. A common pitfall when there is attraction, desire, great sex, etc, is to assume more of a relationship than there is.
In light of this confusion, it’s safer and more accurate to not equate true love, or, for that matter, emotional intimacy with attraction, desire or sex; and not to equate the two. Even great sex in no way guarantees emotional intimacy or a great relationship. The two are separate entities and there is no correlation between them.
One reason for this confusion is that emotional openness and sharing are considerably harder to achieve than the excitement, pleasure and ease associated with sex. Once again, it’s a trap of false security.
Does true love depend on the prevailing conditions and circumstances at any given point in time, a matter of being in the right time and place?
If there are conditions and circumstances conducive for true love, we may consider them to be contextually based relationships. There is a variety of situations that fit into this category. One is when two people meet when traveling away from home, outside of their usual reality. Another is work-related. There are a great many occupations that afford co-workers intimate knowledge about each other, and endless opportunities to earn respect and trust. In the military, for example, soldiers live and train together for months, sometimes years, and must rely on each other in battle. Police and firefighters also spend large chunks of time together and must depend on each other. Actors travel the whole spectrum of emotions, baring their souls to each other. And people who’ve been through an extreme experience together, i.e. a natural disaster or a terrorist attack, naturally seek understanding and support from the only one who had been through the same experience.
In contrast, a natural setting is in the natural course of life, independent of an imposed structure, when you must rely solely and entirely on each other to create and sustain rapport.
In these types of situations, it’s quite common to explore whether they’re able to sustain intimacy, whether their relationship can continue to work outside of the context in which their relationship grew, in a natural setting. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t. When their relationship works in both settings, they may be more inclined to use true love to describe their relationship.
Also, when sex enters the picture, a whole other set of dynamics will enter the picture. An intimate platonic relationship doesn’t necessarily translate to a sexually intimate relationship.
When it comes to true love, intimacy may be the operative term; true love being interchangeable with true intimacy.
While intimacy may be the operative term, true love may also refer to a bond that goes above and beyond intimacy. We might say, “They are hitting on all cylinders.”
Talking about true love is risky business. I can imagine taking a poll, going around asking people who are looking for true love what it is they’re looking for and getting different answers and a lot of “I don’t knows.” Given its subjective nature, it always comes down to one’s interpretation or experience. A never-ending number of questions always seem to get raised.
Let’s establish that what we are talking about when we say ‘true love’ would not be referring to how a parent might feel towards his or her child or a child towards a parent, between siblings. The more traditional connotation of true love leans to, at very least, an emotionally intimate relationship, one that lasts a lifetime. It may be platonic, it may sexual. But for the purposes of this discussion we will first explore what may be some common core elements of true love and of true love that includes sexual intimacy.
As we continue the discussion about what true love is, we will see that a number of related questions are raised.
Is true love, love at first sight? Or, does it come later in the relationship?
True love may and often does begin during the initial encounter, when two people are meeting for the first time. However, the spontaneous, eye-to-eye spark, when time gets compressed, when an irrepressible stirring suddenly before they even talk happens more often in the movies, quite rarely in reality.
After ‘…first sight,’ the two people will eventually have to talk to each other. For then, they will get to see how they feel being together. That spark will either ignite or be kaput, depending on how it feels to be together, which is largely determined by the quality of their rapport. The highest high can go to the lowest low in the blink of an eye.
It is possible that when there is rapport, some kind of mutual discovery occurs; that they like being together (a lot), that they like each other (a lot), that they have this incredible chemistry, that they communicate about anything and everything; and that this turns them on even more. They can become quite excited by their rapport, but when attraction, desire and sex enter the picture, their excitement is further peaked.
Is true love a matter of luck or something that was “meant to be”?
Whether or not it was a matter of luck or their destiny to end up together, there is a strong likelihood that there was an initial rapport. It’s not luck when conscious intention meets purposeful action. It doesn’t just happen. Two people make it happen.
Rapport is a joint effort creation -- two who are people united in purpose, who place a high value getting to know what each other thinks and feels, who want to connect deeply, and are doing so.
During a rapport, there is a bridging of experience, understanding is achieved. Let’s establish one criteria of true love as being able to say, “We understand each other,” which often begins during the initial encounter.
Along with the ability to achieve a deep mutual understanding is comes a variety of other pleasant surprises. When gazing into each other’s eyes and communicating on a deep level, the feeling of knowing one another elevates the level of excitement. “We know each other like no one else does.”
For some, the experience of being able to be completely open, free and understood may be the highest of all highs.
How long does true love last? Does it fade over time?
It is reasonable to assume that if they did it once, they could do it again. However, there are no guarantees. What bears out in reality is that true love will last as long as both people are able to continue to communicate intimately. It may work to look at each and every encounter as a relationship in itself, independent of the others. It may also be considered that when there is consistency over time, the continuity will deepen their relationship, strengthen their bond.
Is true love the same thing as ‘being in love?’ Being with that special someone? Being number one? Being turned on? Having great sex?
What does it feel like? Is it a high or rather mundane? Does it have substance or is it merely a bundle of excitement?
Is it a long plateau of fixed contentment, like being “happy ever after?” Or, is it a never-ending, ever-deepening journey fraught with relationship threatening challenges?
Answering the above questions will require that some important distinctions be made beginning with true love versus ‘being in love.’ Being in love is an altered state of mind. It is a peak experience – exciting, intense… and temporary, tantamount to being high, running on adrenalin.
When ‘in love,’ two people may feel extremely turned on to each other, but how intimate they are is another question. They may feel clear-headed and certain about each other while they’re in love, while forgetting that they’re looking at each other through the lens of idealization, and are often disillusioned and overwhelmed when reality sets in. They are expecting, assuming or hoping that their altered state of mind will last indefinitely. Chances are they don’t have the experience in relationships that would tell them real intimacy is lacking or hasn’t yet been achieved and/or that they haven’t yet been challenged by negative feelings, conflicts or differences. It is more likely to be that they are basking in the false security of their distorted perception.
Another important distinction is true love and great sex.
Confusion is evident in the words often used to describe our sexual encounters. “We were intimate.” “We made love.” Physical or sexual intimacy becomes synonymous with true love or emotional intimacy. A common pitfall when there is attraction, desire, great sex, etc, is to assume more of a relationship than there is.
In light of this confusion, it’s safer and more accurate to not equate true love, or, for that matter, emotional intimacy with attraction, desire or sex; and not to equate the two. Even great sex in no way guarantees emotional intimacy or a great relationship. The two are separate entities and there is no correlation between them.
One reason for this confusion is that emotional openness and sharing are considerably harder to achieve than the excitement, pleasure and ease associated with sex. Once again, it’s a trap of false security.
Does true love depend on the prevailing conditions and circumstances at any given point in time, a matter of being in the right time and place?
If there are conditions and circumstances conducive for true love, we may consider them to be contextually based relationships. There is a variety of situations that fit into this category. One is when two people meet when traveling away from home, outside of their usual reality. Another is work-related. There are a great many occupations that afford co-workers intimate knowledge about each other, and endless opportunities to earn respect and trust. In the military, for example, soldiers live and train together for months, sometimes years, and must rely on each other in battle. Police and firefighters also spend large chunks of time together and must depend on each other. Actors travel the whole spectrum of emotions, baring their souls to each other. And people who’ve been through an extreme experience together, i.e. a natural disaster or a terrorist attack, naturally seek understanding and support from the only one who had been through the same experience.
In contrast, a natural setting is in the natural course of life, independent of an imposed structure, when you must rely solely and entirely on each other to create and sustain rapport.
In these types of situations, it’s quite common to explore whether they’re able to sustain intimacy, whether their relationship can continue to work outside of the context in which their relationship grew, in a natural setting. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t. When their relationship works in both settings, they may be more inclined to use true love to describe their relationship.
Also, when sex enters the picture, a whole other set of dynamics will enter the picture. An intimate platonic relationship doesn’t necessarily translate to a sexually intimate relationship.
When it comes to true love, intimacy may be the operative term; true love being interchangeable with true intimacy.
While intimacy may be the operative term, true love may also refer to a bond that goes above and beyond intimacy. We might say, “They are hitting on all cylinders.”
Thursday, June 9, 2011
What Makes A Man Sexy
By Rachelle Arlin Credo
What makes a man appealling? Is it his dashing good looks? Is it his rock-hard pecs and abs of steel? Or is it his smile and his personality that takes the top plum? In a society where everyone seems aesthetically astute, it's difficult to validate this question for sure. Sexiness is a very subjective matter and is very relative at that. It holds inconsonant views from each individual just as everyone squabbles over tastes in clothes and food. Hence, a universal answer to this blown-up question is an illusion. Nonetheless, having met men from all walks of life with radical styles and personalities, I think I can provide authentic down-to-earth revelations regarding this subject.
So what makes a man sexy? Take your whiffs off the following:
1. Masculinity
There is more to a man than his firm butt and washboard abs. True, what a woman first notices is his anatomical assets but what lingers in her mind is not all that. It's his inherent masculinity. It's in the way he languidly struts across the room with a show of adequacy and grace and the way he flashes the glint in his eyes that ultimately creates the spark. It's also in the manner that he moves and talks that keeps women's eyes riveted at him. Being masculine does not merely suggest flaunting a large build or a protective quality but having this natural instinctive masculine self to trigger women's instinctive feelings of attraction.
2. Smile
A natural sweet smile is one of the greatest attraction of a man. It exudes an aura of congeniality and establishes charisma presence. It also breaks a woman's resistance and communicates hidden messages without any verbal language. This is why a man who is generous with his smile is guaranteed to maintain a women-magnet profile!
3. Eye contact
A man who knows how to have eye contact is a man who knows how to communicate. Women just like men are absolute attention seekers. They want men to listen and to take heed of the things they say. Thereupon, they demand affirmation. Eye contact is a way of ratifying. It makes a woman feel sufficiently attended to and cared for. Eye contact makes women feel so extremely special that they tend to sometimes melt right on the spot.
4. Confidence
Confidence makes a man. There's just something about the appeal of wealth and power that women can't resist. Antithetical to how most people view it, giving off that commanding vibe isn't always dependent on one's bank account. Men can actually take on that aura of authority just by moving through life with an air of self-assurance and a boost of self-esteem.
5. Aromatic sense
If a man is a making of a heartthrob onscreen and is a hunk on a ramp but stinks, he definitely goes down the cutthroat world. No woman likes a man who smells a bit too ripe like he just spent 24 hours locked in the bathroom. If a man looks good and smells even better, women are bound to swarm around him.
6. Sense of Style
Some men just don't seem the type to go with the fashion trend. But it does not mean that they are passe. Some just have their own personal preferences and resist the lure of punked-up garments. Actually, it's not the clothes that make a man sexy. It's how he carries his apparel with confidence and ease that does. Clothes don't entice women, it's the man that makes those clothes look good in him that wiles them.
7. Communication skills
Intellect is a factor in today's attraction equation. We are in such a competitive world that anyone without it is immediately slighted. But intellect without communication skills is not an attractive product. Conversational skills are necessary for any man to win the tilt. He must know when and how to start up a conversation and carry it on 'til it tapers off. He should not patronize women and is not so full of himself. It is believed that if a man is able to stimulate a woman's brain juices in a conversation, it is likely that he can stimulate her other juices as well.
8. Sensitivity
Sensitivity is sexy but too much sensitivity is feminity. So where do we draw the line? When we talk about sensitivity on the right scale, it means having a sense of empathy, confidentiality and trust rolled into one. When a woman confides something, a man's initial reaction is to help her find a solution or fix it himself. This is not sensitivity. When a woman expresses her feelings, she just needs an ear to insorb the steam out of her being. A sexy man sees this through and gets women everytime.
9. Sense of Humor
Laughter releases chemicals that create a sense of well-being, which is a wonderful turn-on. A man equipped with a good sense of humor automatically wins his points on the sexy scale with women. With the mighty use of his expression and wits combined, he becomes an addiction that women just can't get enough of. Women think that if he can evoke them with laughter in public, chances are he can also make them giggle in bed.
10. Oddity
Extrinsic and intrinsic personal abilities and traits that are considered unique and superior by a woman's biology and also by the society to which she identifies with are, to varying extents, very charming to the female species. If a man has the gift of music or have potential fancy footwork or simply has art at his fingertips, he can charm his way anywhere. A mysterious facade that keeps her intrigued and guessing is also deemed bewitching. But a man's resistance to a woman's seduction is considered the prime. It's effects are naturally ingrained into the "sex" part of a woman's brain that it drives her motors purring all the time.
What makes a man sexy is but everything about him and even more. Whether it be on the surface or skin deep, it's just a matter of projection. Every man is sexy in their own ways. They just have to feel that in themselves so the seething sexiness comes out of them naturally.
© 2005 Rachelle Arlin Credo. All rights reserved.
About the Author: Rachelle Arlin Credo is a freelance writer and web columnist from the Philippines. She writes on a variety of topics for print and online publications. Feel free to check her website at
http://www.rachelle.co.nr/
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Understanding How Women Attract Men
By Elliot Beers
The dating scene is populated with two types of people - the haves and the have-nots. While the first group enjoys a steady stream of suitors and relishes in the excitement of romance, the have-nots are left alone wondering why they can’t seem to find the right person. For women in particular, the latter can be frustrating since it is often the men who initiate the dating process. But understand how women attract men can go a long way to improving the fortunes of those who are struggling to garner attention from them.
~ Looks Aren’t Everything
One of the first mistakes than many women make when trying to attract men focusing too much on their appearance. They become so obsessed about how they look that either go overboard on cosmetic enhancements or they attribute every lost dating opportunity to the fact that they didn’t wear the right outfit. Of course we all know that appearance is a big part of first impressions, but bringing too much attention to your looks can be overwhelming to men. They can become intimidated by your high standards and you can come across as too uptight if you are always dressed to the nines. The best advice is to look nice, but be careful not to present yourself as plastic or untouchable.
~Compatible Interests
It may be hard for some women to believe, but men do think about other things than sex. Considering that most of the waking hours of a relationship are spent outside of the bedroom, it is safe to say that you will need to appeal to a man’s general interests and hobbies if you are going to attract them. This doesn’t men you have to start playing basketball, but it does infer that you should have a well-rounded approach to life. Stay in the know with recent events, and become familiar with the attractions of your city. You need to be able to entertain your date with more than just talk about work and family.
~Curiosity Attracts
It can be tempting to ramble on about yourself when you meet someone new. You may not have dated in a while and you are starving for someone to listen to your stories. However, you should be careful about divulging everything about your personal life. You want your man to become curious about you so that he keeps coming back for more. By leaving hints and suggestions that you have much more to offer him in the future, you will peak his interest and keep him hooked. Men love to fantasize about the potential of a woman, and they soon lose their interest when they feel they already know everything about someone. Use this to your advantage by keeping the plot moving along like a good book.
Most women dealing with frustrations in the dating arena are too hard on themselves. They think they lack the good looks and personality needed to attract a man. The truth is that it is often only their presentation that needs some tweaking. By understand how men think and what they want, you can take your own unique attributes and feed them to your date in a way that keeps them wanting more. Just remember to be yourself, have fun, and slowly reveal your inner secrets.
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Monday, June 6, 2011
Who Should Relocate In A Long Distance Relationship?
By Maria Madeira
My Dear Lover,
Soon or later, you and your beloved will have to take the decision of who should move, because it is very hard to live apart.
Moving will change your life drastically, you should what you and beloved really wants from life, you need to communicate, communicate and communicate until you arrive to a very clear understanding about your expectations, It is your future.
Here are some questions to help you make the decision. Will you have to "give up" of your domestic animals? Does your beloved love having cats, dogs, birds, etc. at home?
Any of you already have children? How well will they accept living together, now as a new family? There are good schools for them in the new place? They like the new place? How about their friends, they accept being apart from them? Can they keep their current activities, like sport, etc. in the new place?
Are you moving far away from your family? If you are a kind of person that is very close to your family, it will be very hard not. to be with them so often. Maybe your parents are "old" and need your assistance. You have the right to build your life, your happiness, your love, but I think it isn't fair to leave your parents alone most of the time, when they most need your help. And if you already have children, can they live far away from their actual family? They are willing to have a new family?
If you are divorced and your ex lives near to you, will he accept your new mate? After all he comes from "nowhere", and almost from one day to another, he is already living with you.Of course you can't let your ex be the main reason for you to live your life, where you want, and with who you want, but if your ex is a kind of person that don't accept that you have a new mate, you need to be prepared to deal with that.
Can you live in the new area, possibly, for the rest of your life? Do you like the weather? The culture? If you are an urban lover and will move to a rural area, can you live with that, or will you miss the urban live too much?If you are a kind of person that can adapt very easy to new environments, this is no problem at all, but if you are not, and decide to move, you will need all the help, understanding and support from your beloved, for the more "difficult" phases, be aware that he knows that. Do you really know the new area, or you have been there before, only for a couple of weeks in romantic holidays? Try to know better the new area, if you can spend more time there and not. only when both of you are in holidays, before you move forever.
God forgive me, but if things don't go well between you, and you decide to you should end your relation, after you move, will you come back to your old home, or will you live in the new area? Can you live there, without the support of your family and old friends? It will be a very difficult time for you.
Well, with all these questions, it might seem to you, that this is a very difficult decision to make.It is a big decision that will change your life forever, you need to be very clear about your expectations.
But my most important advice to you is to listen to your heart. True love is so precious and can overcome any difficult.
Don't measure the distance, measure the Love, Maria Madeira.
About the Author: P.S.: Being in a long distance relationship since 2003, Maria Madeira share her advices, her experiences, her help, teaching how to survive a long distance love.
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Buying Gifts of Sexy Lingerie for the Woman of Your Desires
By Anna Notton
The world "Lingerie" is a French inspiration from "linge", meaning washable, originally referring to linen, the fabric of European undergarments before the introduction of cotton. During the late nineteenth century, women were released from restrictive bindings. The beginnings of sexy lingerie were in corsets that became smaller, eventually leading to the creation of the brassiere.
World War II found women assuming the workplace in roles normally occupied by men. Practicality dictated comfort in fashion with undergarments made of lighter more breathable fabrics. In the 1960's, manufacturers began the glamorization of lingerie. The 21st century exploded with undergarments that doubled as outerwear. Modern technologies and new fabrics have woven a love affair with rich-looking fabrics in a plethora of styles that rival the imagination for beauty, creativity and adornment of the female body.Bras and panties come in myriad fabrics in an overwhelming variety of styles for a customized fit that suits personal desires. Cotton reigns supreme for comfort and health. Mind-boggling selections exist in every color and this season's popular prints that offer soft, silky, cool underwear that is machine washable. Bras are available for every body type in push-up, underwire, demi, unlined full coverage, racerback and multi-ways. Many cotton selections incorporate lycra for stretch that offers a product that conforms to the shape of the wearer for incredible fit and comfort.
Panties are available in bikinis, low-rise, thongs, string, hiphuggers, high-leg briefs, cheeky, tap pants, boy shorts or G-strings. Cotton, cotton/lycra and lycra/spandex offer choices that are comfortable, cool, stretchy or light control and shaping.
Diaphanous, sheer babydolls, chemises, romantic, negligees, jersey or cotton sleep tees, or sexy separates, like tees and camisoles combined with boy-shorts/loungewear are a sampling of body-conscious nightwear collections. Hot colors in fabrics that are sheer or cut to flatter, create diversified options for all tastes, shapes and sizes.
Private parties at home might entertain the fantasy of dress-up incorporating sexy hosiery, garter belt and G-string, or the merry widow, a sexy, one-piece lace-up corset and adult toys. Role-playing fun might showcase the French Maid for fantasywear.
It's been said that men don't fall in love with the woman, they fall in love with how the woman makes them feel about themselves. Few things stroke the male ego more effectively than the partner who has put effort into looking alluring for the sole purpose of pleasing him. The tease of strategically bare flesh is hard to resist. Smart choices in erotic lingerie and toys provides female confidence that men find irresistible. Powerful romantic encounters are ignited with the combination of self-confidence, the tease and positive feelings that sexy lingerie can inspire.
When a man gifts a partner with erotic, intimate apparel or toys, he is telling her he loves the sight of her. She inspires him. He thinks of her in her absence. The gift of sexy lingerie can provide uplifting self-confidence to a woman's concept of herself. Buying highly personal items can be a daunting, intimidating experience for a man. Today, the shopping experience is assisted with personalized customer service or online support to insure that your ideas translate in the perfect gift.
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Sunday, June 5, 2011
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Monday, May 30, 2011
7 Questions You Have to Ask Before Jumping on the Plane to Meet Her
You have met your true love online. Is she for real?
The entire world is desperate to find the real love. As the popular songs sounds, 'All You Need is Love'. It is true: to love and to be loved is probably the most important thing in our life. But what to do if you are not sure - is it Love with a capital "L" or just another temporary flirt?
Doubting if the person you are with is the right one for you is a normal thing especially if you have meet that person through online dating sites and you never have meet her face to face.
But there are some things to consider, especially if she is miles away from you that can help you make up your mind if that person is worth to spend your money and time with.
1. For how long do you known her?
If you just met her - forget about that plane ticket for the moment. :)
If there are less than 4-6 months since you two have met, your love can be just an illusion. Wait until you know each other better and talk online or on the phone as much as you can to get some trust and comfort in the relationship.
2. What do you talk about?
I am sure that you like to stick to sweet love talk but how she reacts if you are asking her about her family, her friends? Does she gives you details or didn't want you to know too much about them? You can find out more about her if you know how her friends and family are. You can even talk with her friends online and try to know them this way. But if she don't tell you too much about people around her, this fact have to make you suspicious about this lady. Is she embarrassed to talk about you in front of her friends or does she have something to hide to you?
3. Do you find her attractive?
Does love depends on sex? I'm sure you already know the answer. Yes it does. How can be love be complete without the mornings you are waking up in your lover's arms after a hot passionate night?
So if you talk about HER to YOUR friends all the time and you are already dreaming about her and you didn't even touched her is a good point, this relationship can have a future, a good one :)
4. Do you think, honestly, that she likes you?
You can ask for an outside opinion to your best friend or test her. Yes I know that is unfair but everything is fair in love and war. Doesn't it? So ask her to do some things for you. But what she can do if she is miles away from you, you'll ask. A lot of things:
- read a book than talk about that book to see how carefully she read it;
- make some photo especially for you... in special places;
- buy a CD with some music you like; etc
When you are asking her these things you have to be careful not to ask something too expensive, or something what she couldn't do even she want to. But be specific about the things you are asking and ask it in a polite way. If you see that she is trying as hard as she can to do what you are asking her then she is yours :)
It means that she appreciates you and is curios about what you like, and she is interested in you.
5. If she would win a large sum of money, what would she do with it?
Just ask her. You have all the chances to be surprised by the answers. :)
It could be: buy new designer clothes, buying everything for herself and/or her purse dog, probably give the money to charity, and quit her job mid-shift. You can discover a lot about a person from the answers to this question. But if somewhere in the answer is your name involved you can smile - she is thinking about you like you are there in here daily life.
6. Do you have a lot in common?
Maybe she is hot and you like her, but a long term relationship involve more than sex. You know that, donÆt you?
So what hobbies do you have in common, where do you both enjoy going in vacations or weekends? What passions you have those are interesting for her too?
These are some important things to consider when you are thinking to spend a little fortune on a plane ticket.
7. Is she the best you can get?
Don't compromise! We compromise in love because we are so desperate to be loved. But compromising does not lead to feeling loved.
Finding real love has nothing to do with chance, looks, location, or timing. Finding your perfect love-mate has to do with your thinking, your qualities, your affirmations, your spirituality, and your commitment to being with a woman who can love you as equally as you will love her.
Doubting if the person you are with is the right one for you is a normal thing especially if you have meet that person through online dating sites and you never have meet her face to face.
But there are some things to consider, especially if she is miles away from you that can help you make up your mind if that person is worth to spend your money and time with.
1. For how long do you known her?
If you just met her - forget about that plane ticket for the moment. :)
If there are less than 4-6 months since you two have met, your love can be just an illusion. Wait until you know each other better and talk online or on the phone as much as you can to get some trust and comfort in the relationship.
2. What do you talk about?
I am sure that you like to stick to sweet love talk but how she reacts if you are asking her about her family, her friends? Does she gives you details or didn't want you to know too much about them? You can find out more about her if you know how her friends and family are. You can even talk with her friends online and try to know them this way. But if she don't tell you too much about people around her, this fact have to make you suspicious about this lady. Is she embarrassed to talk about you in front of her friends or does she have something to hide to you?
3. Do you find her attractive?
Does love depends on sex? I'm sure you already know the answer. Yes it does. How can be love be complete without the mornings you are waking up in your lover's arms after a hot passionate night?
So if you talk about HER to YOUR friends all the time and you are already dreaming about her and you didn't even touched her is a good point, this relationship can have a future, a good one :)
4. Do you think, honestly, that she likes you?
You can ask for an outside opinion to your best friend or test her. Yes I know that is unfair but everything is fair in love and war. Doesn't it? So ask her to do some things for you. But what she can do if she is miles away from you, you'll ask. A lot of things:
- read a book than talk about that book to see how carefully she read it;
- make some photo especially for you... in special places;
- buy a CD with some music you like; etc
When you are asking her these things you have to be careful not to ask something too expensive, or something what she couldn't do even she want to. But be specific about the things you are asking and ask it in a polite way. If you see that she is trying as hard as she can to do what you are asking her then she is yours :)
It means that she appreciates you and is curios about what you like, and she is interested in you.
5. If she would win a large sum of money, what would she do with it?
Just ask her. You have all the chances to be surprised by the answers. :)
It could be: buy new designer clothes, buying everything for herself and/or her purse dog, probably give the money to charity, and quit her job mid-shift. You can discover a lot about a person from the answers to this question. But if somewhere in the answer is your name involved you can smile - she is thinking about you like you are there in here daily life.
6. Do you have a lot in common?
Maybe she is hot and you like her, but a long term relationship involve more than sex. You know that, donÆt you?
So what hobbies do you have in common, where do you both enjoy going in vacations or weekends? What passions you have those are interesting for her too?
These are some important things to consider when you are thinking to spend a little fortune on a plane ticket.
7. Is she the best you can get?
Don't compromise! We compromise in love because we are so desperate to be loved. But compromising does not lead to feeling loved.
Finding real love has nothing to do with chance, looks, location, or timing. Finding your perfect love-mate has to do with your thinking, your qualities, your affirmations, your spirituality, and your commitment to being with a woman who can love you as equally as you will love her.
So if you considered this few issues and you still are eager to meet her face to face, buy that ticket, it could change your life.
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4 Rules to transform an long distance love on the Internet into an normal relationship
Let's suppose that you are meeting someone online and that person seem to be the mach of your life, but is living far away from you. Does it worth to spend your time to a long distance relationship with this person? But, what if this person is realy your soulmate?
You may be surprised how much a relationship can grow if you work at it. If you know and aply some simple rules, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.
Distance, combined with telephone calls and writing, electronically or through snail-mail, can foster an enviable intimacy which results from learning about another's qualities, values, ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and aspirations. This type of intimacy can make your coming together much more special.
As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. Just read the following rules and try to keep in mind and apply:
1.The quality of the relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
2. Make the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.
3. Start to keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes. And when you do make contact, don't just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way you each stay aware of how the other is thinking, feeling and developing. Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.
4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner of how much you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss you more with the constant urge to see you. But don't be possessive. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those will help the relationship develop successfully.
If your partner truly wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to have you next to her or him. As long as you both trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, your relationship can turn out into a happy normal relationship.
Ultimately, a normal relationship is the goal, doesn't it.
You may be surprised how much a relationship can grow if you work at it. If you know and aply some simple rules, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.
Distance, combined with telephone calls and writing, electronically or through snail-mail, can foster an enviable intimacy which results from learning about another's qualities, values, ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and aspirations. This type of intimacy can make your coming together much more special.
As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. Just read the following rules and try to keep in mind and apply:
1.The quality of the relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
2. Make the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.
3. Start to keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes. And when you do make contact, don't just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way you each stay aware of how the other is thinking, feeling and developing. Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.
4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner of how much you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss you more with the constant urge to see you. But don't be possessive. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those will help the relationship develop successfully.
If your partner truly wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to have you next to her or him. As long as you both trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, your relationship can turn out into a happy normal relationship.
Ultimately, a normal relationship is the goal, doesn't it.
You Make Me Feel...
Do other people make you feel things?
Do they make you feel happy or sad?
I’m curious. How do they make you feel this way?
Do they say, “Hey, here’s a tin of sadness.”
Or maybe they say, “Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I’ve got one here you can have.”
Can you find happiness or sadness on the supermarket shelves, pre-packaged and ready to go?
Shopaholics amongst you would argue that you could; however I would say you can’t.
We often rely on other people to “make” us feel a certain way. We rely on them to do something, say something, be something in order for us to feel happy. If they don’t do what we are expecting them to, we get upset, sad and hurt.
In short, we often attempt to control other people in order to control how we feel; that is, our emotions.
And when we do this, we are setting ourselves up for failure, because we can’t control anyone else. We cannot force anyone to do anything or assume they will.
There is just one person we control; ourselves.
People don’t make us feel certain emotions. We choose to feel them. We decide to react in a certain way. We make assumptions about what people mean. We leap to conclusions.
No one can give you a tin of unhappiness, or a bucket of joy. These things are not physical items that can be passed from person to person. They are intangible items that exist only in ourselves.
In fact just the other day I was at a wedding. I told one of my friends how wonderful she looked and how much I liked her outfit. She leapt to the conclusion that I was being sarcastic and chose to be offended by what was a genuine compliment.
Had I even been being sarcastic, she could have chosen to be complimented and replied with a, “I’m glad you like it” and felt better about herself.
There was a guy I knew when I was younger. He was short, balding, spotty and he had been short changed in the looks department. Yet whenever we went out to bars, he’d wander up to any pretty woman and start talking to her. If she turned him down, he’d shrug his shoulders and continue.
I don’t think it ever even occurred to him to feel bad about these rejections. He’d just smile and say, “Your loss” and move on to the next one.
Believe it or not, each of you are in control of yourself and how you feel. You can choose to feel anyway you want. Right now, you could choose to feel happy; or I am sure you could choose to feel sad. Just by thinking about it, you could change how you feel.
It’s almost magic isn’t it?
So what about choosing how you feel when you are interacting with other people?
The vast majority of people run on auto-pilot. They allow their body and mind to more or less get on with it, not worrying too much about the programs that are running or the condition of it. It doesn’t interfere with them too much so they allow it to get on with it.
It’s like watching all the cars driving around a city and not realising there is someone inside controlling them.
Most people have forgotten there is this “person” inside of them controlling them.
If you choose, you can take back control of how you feel and stop relying on other people to meet certain conditions.
When you go to the office and someone says, “Good Morning” to you, you can choose to grumble and mutter, “There’s nothing good about it.” Or, you can choose to reply in kind and say, “It’s a fantastic morning.”
That is, you can choose to feel bad or choose to feel good.
Which do you prefer?
Realise that you are the only person who can make you feel anything and stop allowing the people around you to make you feel bad. Decide to feel good and enjoy yourself.
If someone turns you down or rejects you, “It’s their loss” or something similar.
If someone says insults you, “Poor thing, must be confused” or something similar.
Decide to take back control of yourself and your life and to stop being on auto-pilot. Choose how you are going to feel instead of allowing other people to choose for you.
Do they make you feel happy or sad?
I’m curious. How do they make you feel this way?
Do they say, “Hey, here’s a tin of sadness.”
Or maybe they say, “Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I’ve got one here you can have.”
Can you find happiness or sadness on the supermarket shelves, pre-packaged and ready to go?
Shopaholics amongst you would argue that you could; however I would say you can’t.
We often rely on other people to “make” us feel a certain way. We rely on them to do something, say something, be something in order for us to feel happy. If they don’t do what we are expecting them to, we get upset, sad and hurt.
In short, we often attempt to control other people in order to control how we feel; that is, our emotions.
And when we do this, we are setting ourselves up for failure, because we can’t control anyone else. We cannot force anyone to do anything or assume they will.
There is just one person we control; ourselves.
People don’t make us feel certain emotions. We choose to feel them. We decide to react in a certain way. We make assumptions about what people mean. We leap to conclusions.
No one can give you a tin of unhappiness, or a bucket of joy. These things are not physical items that can be passed from person to person. They are intangible items that exist only in ourselves.
In fact just the other day I was at a wedding. I told one of my friends how wonderful she looked and how much I liked her outfit. She leapt to the conclusion that I was being sarcastic and chose to be offended by what was a genuine compliment.
Had I even been being sarcastic, she could have chosen to be complimented and replied with a, “I’m glad you like it” and felt better about herself.
There was a guy I knew when I was younger. He was short, balding, spotty and he had been short changed in the looks department. Yet whenever we went out to bars, he’d wander up to any pretty woman and start talking to her. If she turned him down, he’d shrug his shoulders and continue.
I don’t think it ever even occurred to him to feel bad about these rejections. He’d just smile and say, “Your loss” and move on to the next one.
Believe it or not, each of you are in control of yourself and how you feel. You can choose to feel anyway you want. Right now, you could choose to feel happy; or I am sure you could choose to feel sad. Just by thinking about it, you could change how you feel.
It’s almost magic isn’t it?
So what about choosing how you feel when you are interacting with other people?
The vast majority of people run on auto-pilot. They allow their body and mind to more or less get on with it, not worrying too much about the programs that are running or the condition of it. It doesn’t interfere with them too much so they allow it to get on with it.
It’s like watching all the cars driving around a city and not realising there is someone inside controlling them.
Most people have forgotten there is this “person” inside of them controlling them.
If you choose, you can take back control of how you feel and stop relying on other people to meet certain conditions.
When you go to the office and someone says, “Good Morning” to you, you can choose to grumble and mutter, “There’s nothing good about it.” Or, you can choose to reply in kind and say, “It’s a fantastic morning.”
That is, you can choose to feel bad or choose to feel good.
Which do you prefer?
Realise that you are the only person who can make you feel anything and stop allowing the people around you to make you feel bad. Decide to feel good and enjoy yourself.
If someone turns you down or rejects you, “It’s their loss” or something similar.
If someone says insults you, “Poor thing, must be confused” or something similar.
Decide to take back control of yourself and your life and to stop being on auto-pilot. Choose how you are going to feel instead of allowing other people to choose for you.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Bring Love Into Your Life
So many people are complaining about the lack of love in their life. They act as if some stranger decided one day to take away the love out of their lives. They hold on to lovers already gone since eternity, or they dream about a partner coming into their life to give them everything they are not able to give themselves. They balance between hope and desperation. They look for love outside themselves and believe one day a charming prince on a white horse will knock at the door and take them away to live for ever happy in a castle for away from reality.
The good news is YOU can do a lot yourself to feel loved.
Let me explain.
Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors : the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all : the more love there is.
Picture this building of life in your mental eye. In the cellar you will find people like rapers, thiefs, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the groundfloor you will find a lot of people. In fact most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hotdog in the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.
Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life IS easy, life IS light. The cellar, groundfloor and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life (think of the one who kills the husband of the woman he wants to live with, or those who kill other minded people in order to be free to live like they want). This will never give freedom or love.
So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love?
First you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now?
Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is is the groundfloor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be at the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life at the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low.
So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.
What to do? You decided where you want to be. What you will do now? Should you wait until someone will knock on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!
So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash you inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called Internet and which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.
So first you decide where you want to be. Than you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask help of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.
Once you get at the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will meet automatically people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.
Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go at their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!
Move yourself up.
If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this : don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for himself. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me : life is wonderful!
Other people are trying to survive in a bad relationship that holds their greatness hostage. They live in fear and anger every day but don’t know how to get out of this prison.
Do you know such people? Does this sound like you? Do you feel lonely, are you dreaming of the right one who will show up one day and end all the misery you’re going through now?
The bad news is this will not happen.The good news is YOU can do a lot yourself to feel loved.
Let me explain.
Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors : the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all : the more love there is.
Picture this building of life in your mental eye. In the cellar you will find people like rapers, thiefs, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the groundfloor you will find a lot of people. In fact most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hotdog in the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.
Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life IS easy, life IS light. The cellar, groundfloor and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life (think of the one who kills the husband of the woman he wants to live with, or those who kill other minded people in order to be free to live like they want). This will never give freedom or love.
So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love?
First you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now?
Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is is the groundfloor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be at the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life at the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low.
So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.
What to do? You decided where you want to be. What you will do now? Should you wait until someone will knock on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!
So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash you inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called Internet and which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.
So first you decide where you want to be. Than you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask help of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.
Once you get at the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will meet automatically people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.
Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go at their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!
Move yourself up.
If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this : don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for himself. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me : life is wonderful!
Sex vs. Romance
...and believe that finally they may have the answer.
There are two distinct differences in the areas of the brain associated with sexual arousal and emotional responses typical of being romantically involved, and using brain scans. Scientists were able to decipher the distinctions people make-in their brains-when presented with sexual stimuli and then pictures of their wives and/or girlfriends. (By the way, the studies were done on females as well, we will use the term him for the sake of simplicity.)
Subjects who had very recently entered into new love relationships were hooked up to electro scanners and given a series of questions to answer pertaining to their new loves. Their levels of dopamine soared when answering the questions, and appeared mostly to stimulate the right side of the brain, usually associated with rewards that are not typically in the instant gratification section. This was thought to be because romance and love is not part of instant gratification, as is thought to be sexual encounters, porn, and impulse control associated with the left side of the brain. When the same subjects were shown sexually explicit material or answered explicit questions, the scans on the left side of the brain reacted.
More importantly, the areas of the brain which are thought to act as the relationship matures changed strongly when these same questions were answered by couples who had been involved for several years, leading scientists to believe that as we mature in our relationships, so does our brain activity in response to that relationship. This could also explain why couples who are very much in love also experience a sense of the spark going out of their relationship after a few years. It's not that they aren't attracted to each other any longer; it’s that their brain waves have matured. This could give much hope to couples thinking about separating because they don't know what happened to the romance and sex in their relationship. This breakthrough could save you thousands on couples counseling, and give the hope that as the two of you move through this area of your relationship-and you will move through it, studies also show that this is a growth area for couples, not the end of the partnership- you will come out on the other side even more attracted to each other than before.
During the fifties and the beginning of the sixties, these types of studies where not even thought of, couples stayed together even when it seemed impossible. With the explosion of divorce becoming popular in the seventies and more couples separating in order to find them, the need for these types of brain wave studies became very necessary, and a good thing, too.
If you and your partner are in a rut, it's not the right move to separate. Stay together and give it some time, there are other things you can do to spice up your relationship and still stay together. Love is still by far the strongest of all of the emotions.
Subjects who had very recently entered into new love relationships were hooked up to electro scanners and given a series of questions to answer pertaining to their new loves. Their levels of dopamine soared when answering the questions, and appeared mostly to stimulate the right side of the brain, usually associated with rewards that are not typically in the instant gratification section. This was thought to be because romance and love is not part of instant gratification, as is thought to be sexual encounters, porn, and impulse control associated with the left side of the brain. When the same subjects were shown sexually explicit material or answered explicit questions, the scans on the left side of the brain reacted.
More importantly, the areas of the brain which are thought to act as the relationship matures changed strongly when these same questions were answered by couples who had been involved for several years, leading scientists to believe that as we mature in our relationships, so does our brain activity in response to that relationship. This could also explain why couples who are very much in love also experience a sense of the spark going out of their relationship after a few years. It's not that they aren't attracted to each other any longer; it’s that their brain waves have matured. This could give much hope to couples thinking about separating because they don't know what happened to the romance and sex in their relationship. This breakthrough could save you thousands on couples counseling, and give the hope that as the two of you move through this area of your relationship-and you will move through it, studies also show that this is a growth area for couples, not the end of the partnership- you will come out on the other side even more attracted to each other than before.
During the fifties and the beginning of the sixties, these types of studies where not even thought of, couples stayed together even when it seemed impossible. With the explosion of divorce becoming popular in the seventies and more couples separating in order to find them, the need for these types of brain wave studies became very necessary, and a good thing, too.
If you and your partner are in a rut, it's not the right move to separate. Stay together and give it some time, there are other things you can do to spice up your relationship and still stay together. Love is still by far the strongest of all of the emotions.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
How to Tell if a Girl Likes You The Three Signs
Although the short answer for how to tell if a girl likes you is “just go for it and ask her out for a drink, you’ll never know unless you ask,” some guys need a bit more concrete cues to figure it out. The issue of “does she like you” is involves dynamics that go beyond the initial “did she accept a first date” and your opening line introductions. If a girl pays attention to you, she has some interest to begin with.
But make sure that the girl you are thinking about does like you for sure before you act or make a move on your suspicions, like talking up forming a serious bond with each other. Signs that she really is in the “like you” zone include:
~She’s Infatuated
You will look perfect in her eyes – you simply cannot do anything wrong! Once introduced, she will certainly try to keep the conversation going. She puts you on a pedestal, rather than the reverse routine of a guy over idolyzing the girl. You are way past the how to get a girl stage, if the girl is into you to this extent. In fact, this may be the time to double check whether this girl has any defects attached to her, like obsessiveness, clinginess or low-self-esteem. Did she get with you because she is needy or desperate? But extreme cases aside, if she is infatuated it’s safe to say she likes you.
~She Seeks to Own You
When out with you (and especially when in a group), she will try her best to get your attention. If a girl likes you she will generally let her female counter parts know that she has marked her territory. She will try to intercept your wandering eye, to prevent you from even starting to plan how to get a girl other than her. If you are equally committed as well as into her as well, you will welcome the woman who has attached herself firmly to you. Not only does she like you, she is more then ready to discuss the direction your relationship is going.
But make sure that the girl you are thinking about does like you for sure before you act or make a move on your suspicions, like talking up forming a serious bond with each other. Signs that she really is in the “like you” zone include:
She will try to get in touch with you as often as she can. She might use an excuse to give her phone number to you, without you even asking for it. And if she is with you frequently, and is generally inquisitive regarding everything that interests you, then she obviously likes you. She may even eliminate the mystery of how to tell if a girl likes you, by telling you she does. You are surely blessed if the truth is established this clearly. Generally, women will tend to be subtle and coy, dropping hints and basically hanging around a guy, until he gets the point.
~She’s Infatuated
You will look perfect in her eyes – you simply cannot do anything wrong! Once introduced, she will certainly try to keep the conversation going. She puts you on a pedestal, rather than the reverse routine of a guy over idolyzing the girl. You are way past the how to get a girl stage, if the girl is into you to this extent. In fact, this may be the time to double check whether this girl has any defects attached to her, like obsessiveness, clinginess or low-self-esteem. Did she get with you because she is needy or desperate? But extreme cases aside, if she is infatuated it’s safe to say she likes you.
~She Seeks to Own You
When out with you (and especially when in a group), she will try her best to get your attention. If a girl likes you she will generally let her female counter parts know that she has marked her territory. She will try to intercept your wandering eye, to prevent you from even starting to plan how to get a girl other than her. If you are equally committed as well as into her as well, you will welcome the woman who has attached herself firmly to you. Not only does she like you, she is more then ready to discuss the direction your relationship is going.
Have you ever found yourself making the same mistake over and over simply because you didn’t know any better at the time? We’re all human – from time to time we unintentionally make the occasional blunder due to a bunch of mistaken assumptions running in the back of our mind.
These false beliefs keep us blissfully unaware that our ill-informed decisions will actually lead us to disaster!
And you know what? This isn’t a bad thing in itself because learning from our mistakes adds to our body of knowledge. However, wouldn’t you want to AVOID making these boo-boos if you COULD?
This is why you need to UNLEARN any incorrect notions that could cloud your better judgment.
Sometimes, it just takes another pair of eyes to identify the mindsets that could drive you towards perfectly preventable mistakes. Gain some fresh insight by clicking here
How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind?
Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them. When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction.
Thus, let’s take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of:
#1: Guys are into "low maintenance" women.
Actually, this wouldn't be a problem if the term "low maintenance" wasn't misconstrued in the first place. Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER.
This attitude reminds me of the 1950's housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era.
You know what I'm talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside.
She's the one who's afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much. This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way.
Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they've become a mere shadow of their former selves.
Being “low maintenance” in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities.
This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesn’t throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark.
(And I emphasize “OCCASIONAL”, as opposed to “habitually”, but anyway…)
This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum. When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women don’t often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances.
All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about.
Therefore, it’s NOT about being so laid-back to the point where you’re frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guy’s every whim…
…or even TOLERATE selfishness.
And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself.
Remember, there’s a difference between a cool girl that doesn’t get upset over the little things…
…and the emotional SLAVE who doesn’t have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of “love”.
The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you.
If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say it’s dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend?
Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies?
Even though we’re always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self.
The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are.
If you build your universe around whether you’re single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness.
You wouldn’t want anyone to believe that having a boyfriend is the ONLY thing that motivates you in life, right? You know you’re TOO GOOD to act like that.
Don’t get me wrong – it’s WONDERFUL to have a partner who adores and respects you. That crazy rush you feel when you fall in love can greatly inspire you do great things in the other areas of your life.
However, my point is that you should still retain a good sense of PERSPECTIVE when you *do* get into a relationship. What that means is that you’d be just as fine even if you didn’t have a boyfriend at the moment.
Your life was just as fine before you met him, and you can certainly leave if you’re not being treated the way you should be.
Of course, I don’t mean this in an arrogant way nor am I suggesting that our partners should be the pushovers instead!
All I’m saying is that you shouldn’t be scared to leave the comfort zone of your relationship if it isn’t helping your personal growth.
Also, in no way should you cover up your true feelings by waiving your right to SPEAK UP if you need to (i.e. when the terms are unfavorable).
A good relationship is always a TWO-WAY street, so don’t let the low-maintenance myth (or rather, misconception) tell you otherwise.
#2: Falling in Love is Eternal Bliss Guaranteed
The other common trap women fall into is the assumption that those butterfly-in-the-stomach feelings you first get when you meet someone will remain CONSTANT in the relationship.
However, this just isn’t going to happen. Even happily married couples who’ve been together for decades know that their initial infatuation for each other evolved into a deeper and more MATURE sense of loving.
This kind of love goes beyond the initial rush that all new couples go through. This is the love that’s weathered countless emotional storms, power struggles and other CHALLENGES.
The end result is a rock-solid relationship that doesn’t constantly require you to feel the heart-quickening rush found in infatuation.
But there’s no reason to panic over this fact of life. You shouldn’t be afraid of outgrowing this primary stage in your relationship since better things are headed your way.
Over time, the falling in love stage will eventually be replaced by something more powerful in the long run. It’s just that you’re going to go through a series of trials as a couple before you get there.
Don’t buy into the myth that loving your guy as you do now will be enough to get you through the years. Remember that neither of you are perfect; somewhere along the way, your “little” differences are going to catch up to you.
(I’ve heard of couples breaking up over their brand of toothpaste, but hopefully your own relationship won’t go to that extreme!)
I’ll be honest with you here – you’re going to FIGHT tooth and nail over things like this, and you’re going to wake up and smell the coffee sooner or later. But power struggles are NORMAL after the familiarity settles in.
If you can accept the reality that love will inevitably undergo a transformation over time, then you’ll have no reason to worry about the growing pains in your relationship.
Otherwise, insisting that everything will run smoothly or take care of itself will BLIND you to speedbumps in the future.
Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy the moment because being HAPPY is the point of having a relationship, right?
You just have to be aware that things will change eventually. However, you can stay happy as long as you’re cool with having to deal with the reality check phase in due time.
(No need to worry your pretty little self about stuff UNTIL you have to!)
All in all, finding happiness in a man’s arms is best done by keeping a REALISTIC perspective no matter how head over heels you may feel at a given moment.
There are a lot of impractical beliefs and notions that we women are unnecessarily exposed to in these modern times. Like it or not, picking up unrealistic perceptions of love and dating is just a TV show or DVD rental away.
In this confusing sea of misinformation, a sassy girl definitely needs to keep her wits afloat!
For the most part, whatever we read in books or see onscreen are distilled versions of life at best. It doesn’t necessarily reflect what happens in REAL situations!
So we can’t project unrealistic fantasies onto real life and NOT expect to run into problems!
The real world naturally includes the complexities of human behavior. You need to keep this in mind when considering what men want from us and what we should expect from them.
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This article comes to you courtesy of http://www.meetyoursweet.com/
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s “Get a Guy Guide.”
If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real women!
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These false beliefs keep us blissfully unaware that our ill-informed decisions will actually lead us to disaster!
And you know what? This isn’t a bad thing in itself because learning from our mistakes adds to our body of knowledge. However, wouldn’t you want to AVOID making these boo-boos if you COULD?
This is why you need to UNLEARN any incorrect notions that could cloud your better judgment.
Sometimes, it just takes another pair of eyes to identify the mindsets that could drive you towards perfectly preventable mistakes. Gain some fresh insight by clicking here
How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind?
Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them. When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction.
Thus, let’s take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of:
#1: Guys are into "low maintenance" women.
Actually, this wouldn't be a problem if the term "low maintenance" wasn't misconstrued in the first place. Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER.
This attitude reminds me of the 1950's housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era.
You know what I'm talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside.
She's the one who's afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much. This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way.
Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they've become a mere shadow of their former selves.
Being “low maintenance” in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities.
This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesn’t throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark.
(And I emphasize “OCCASIONAL”, as opposed to “habitually”, but anyway…)
This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum. When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women don’t often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances.
All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about.
Therefore, it’s NOT about being so laid-back to the point where you’re frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guy’s every whim…
…or even TOLERATE selfishness.
And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself.
Remember, there’s a difference between a cool girl that doesn’t get upset over the little things…
…and the emotional SLAVE who doesn’t have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of “love”.
The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you.
If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say it’s dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend?
Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies?
Even though we’re always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self.
The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are.
If you build your universe around whether you’re single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness.
You wouldn’t want anyone to believe that having a boyfriend is the ONLY thing that motivates you in life, right? You know you’re TOO GOOD to act like that.
Don’t get me wrong – it’s WONDERFUL to have a partner who adores and respects you. That crazy rush you feel when you fall in love can greatly inspire you do great things in the other areas of your life.
However, my point is that you should still retain a good sense of PERSPECTIVE when you *do* get into a relationship. What that means is that you’d be just as fine even if you didn’t have a boyfriend at the moment.
Your life was just as fine before you met him, and you can certainly leave if you’re not being treated the way you should be.
Of course, I don’t mean this in an arrogant way nor am I suggesting that our partners should be the pushovers instead!
All I’m saying is that you shouldn’t be scared to leave the comfort zone of your relationship if it isn’t helping your personal growth.
Also, in no way should you cover up your true feelings by waiving your right to SPEAK UP if you need to (i.e. when the terms are unfavorable).
A good relationship is always a TWO-WAY street, so don’t let the low-maintenance myth (or rather, misconception) tell you otherwise.
#2: Falling in Love is Eternal Bliss Guaranteed
The other common trap women fall into is the assumption that those butterfly-in-the-stomach feelings you first get when you meet someone will remain CONSTANT in the relationship.
However, this just isn’t going to happen. Even happily married couples who’ve been together for decades know that their initial infatuation for each other evolved into a deeper and more MATURE sense of loving.
This kind of love goes beyond the initial rush that all new couples go through. This is the love that’s weathered countless emotional storms, power struggles and other CHALLENGES.
The end result is a rock-solid relationship that doesn’t constantly require you to feel the heart-quickening rush found in infatuation.
But there’s no reason to panic over this fact of life. You shouldn’t be afraid of outgrowing this primary stage in your relationship since better things are headed your way.
Over time, the falling in love stage will eventually be replaced by something more powerful in the long run. It’s just that you’re going to go through a series of trials as a couple before you get there.
Don’t buy into the myth that loving your guy as you do now will be enough to get you through the years. Remember that neither of you are perfect; somewhere along the way, your “little” differences are going to catch up to you.
(I’ve heard of couples breaking up over their brand of toothpaste, but hopefully your own relationship won’t go to that extreme!)
I’ll be honest with you here – you’re going to FIGHT tooth and nail over things like this, and you’re going to wake up and smell the coffee sooner or later. But power struggles are NORMAL after the familiarity settles in.
If you can accept the reality that love will inevitably undergo a transformation over time, then you’ll have no reason to worry about the growing pains in your relationship.
Otherwise, insisting that everything will run smoothly or take care of itself will BLIND you to speedbumps in the future.
Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy the moment because being HAPPY is the point of having a relationship, right?
You just have to be aware that things will change eventually. However, you can stay happy as long as you’re cool with having to deal with the reality check phase in due time.
(No need to worry your pretty little self about stuff UNTIL you have to!)
All in all, finding happiness in a man’s arms is best done by keeping a REALISTIC perspective no matter how head over heels you may feel at a given moment.
There are a lot of impractical beliefs and notions that we women are unnecessarily exposed to in these modern times. Like it or not, picking up unrealistic perceptions of love and dating is just a TV show or DVD rental away.
In this confusing sea of misinformation, a sassy girl definitely needs to keep her wits afloat!
For the most part, whatever we read in books or see onscreen are distilled versions of life at best. It doesn’t necessarily reflect what happens in REAL situations!
So we can’t project unrealistic fantasies onto real life and NOT expect to run into problems!
The real world naturally includes the complexities of human behavior. You need to keep this in mind when considering what men want from us and what we should expect from them.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of http://www.meetyoursweet.com/
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s “Get a Guy Guide.”
If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real women!
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Sunday, May 22, 2011
Innovative Ideas For Dates She Will Never Forget
An overlooked approach to seduction is often found in meeting women through friends. There are advantages found in getting set up by your buddies or colleagues, as well as improving your odds through social networking sites.
These often overlooked avenues are GREAT ways to smoothly transition from acquaintances to friends…
…and hopefully, into potential lovers.
The key to doing that is by going on a DATE with her. There are two basic ways to gradually lead her into this, namely: hanging out with her along with your mutual friend(s) AND continuing the interaction online through networking sites like Facebook.
However, it’s cool if you’re the kind of guy who likes to do cold approaches on total strangers in everyday places like bookstores, record bars, convenience stores and so on. After all, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.
Regardless of your chosen method of meeting women however, you obviously need to go out with her on an exclusive date if a relationship is your goal.
Personally, the dating method I recommend is a gradual, multi-tiered approach. What I mean by that is I take things one step at a time, continuously gauging and ESCALATING a woman’s interest little by little.
You see, a successful pursuit is the result of mastering the COURTSHIP PROCESS whose length depends upon a given woman’s disposition. If you plan your dates around this basic context, it won’t be long until she’ll be chasing after you like a lovesick puppy.
So let me break down the dating structure I’ve successfully adapted over the years. Initially, you’ll need to know her better in a one-on-one environment before taking things up a notch.
That’s why your first date with her should be a RELAXED social affair. There shouldn’t be any pressure at all at this point (although a little sexual tension is fine and even expected), so keep things light and FUN.
You know the typical scene in a TV show where the leading lady is flustered over what to wear on the first date? Don’t put your woman in this predicament.
This cliché has been done to death and you should be SHAKING THINGS UP with her. If you want to break the mold, you’re going to have to skip the typical romantic date routine and be INNOVATIVE.
How do you do this? Simple – instead of asking your lady out to an expensive restaurant, meet up with her at a casual public place like a coffee shop or a juice bar.
This is an excellent way to minimize the natural jitters that come with a first date (for BOTH you and her). While you’ll NEVER really get rid of all those fluttering butterflies, you’ll have an easier time focusing on HER and have a good time all around.
After all, the point of going on a date is to ENJOY her company, and not treat it like it was a job interview where you have to prove yourself to her. Don’t fall into that NEEDY mindset.
Furthermore, innovative first dates like these happen to be VERY budget-friendly. NOT that I’m saying you should be a cheapskate, but splurging right at the beginning screws up the courtship process.
This isn’t about doing the “pulling-out-all-the-stops” kind of stuff, but rather doing them at the RIGHT TIME. In her mind, these things will have way more impact and value if they’re given as a reward rather than something that doesn’t need to be earned.
Besides, romance has a much easier time to blossom when you’re not projecting any expectations.
(I’m not saying though that it’s not possible for the sparks to fly so early on…)
In case that it does, your lucky date will feel like it’s the most NATURAL thing in the world because she wasn’t FORCED into it.
Bottom line: avoid making a huge production out of the first date.
With that said however, going on a low-pressure date doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plant subtle hints of romance in her head.
But we’ll save that for later – right now, let’s talk about setting up the first date.
I’m assuming at this point that you’ve already made initial contact with her (either through your friends or on your own) and have obtained that ever-important phone number.
Generally, it’s advisable to call her back within a maximum of one week after that first encounter. Wait any longer and the rapport that you have may FADE away into nothingness.
If at all possible, call her at HOME so she’ll have a better chance of writing down the details. Emails as well as voice and text messages are at risk of being accidentally deleted or overlooked. Even calling her mobile isn’t a good idea because she may be distracted or won’t have anything to write with.
If there’s one thing you should know about inviting her, it’s the importance of having a DEFINITE PLAN with specific details (i.e. the time and place where YOU want to meet). The worst way to do this is blurt something out like, “Hey there, remember me? Why don’t we grab a bite at any place you want…any time is good for me too…”
Remember, women appreciate a guy with a firm masculine essence. If you’re gonna call her up and sound unsure, it’s a HUGE giveaway that you’re not really in control of your life.
Is she prejudging you? You better believe it. Don’t tell me that your own brain isn’t running in the background when you’re checking out potential women to approach.
That’s just the female mind at work, brother – sometimes, it’s better to go with the flow than against it.
As much as you can, suggest a place you’re already familiar with so you have the homecourt advantage. Like I said, you might feel antsy anyway, so you might as well pick a comfortable spot.
It’s only natural for anyone to have a sense of uneasiness when they’re on unfamiliar ground. Keep this at bay by inviting your girl somewhere you’d feel at home.
Keep in mind that your time and venue should be at a place convenient not just for her, but for you as well. It’s ok to be reasonably flexible about setting up a date - but not to the point where you have to travel half across town or cancel other important appointments just for her.
Once you’ve agreed to a date, it’s time to run you through the basics. As mentioned earlier, you’re going to have to get a head start on creating romantic thoughts swirling in that brain of hers.
The cool thing about the “casual” first date is that you can totally accomplish the said objective under the radar. In such a relaxed context, she won’t know what hit her!
So how do you create this effect? Well, it’s done through the little things.
When I say “little”, I’m referring to fleeting little indications that you’re into her. You don’t want to push her away by telegraphing TOO much interest early on, so you can do it in smaller, bite-sized chunks of subtlety.
When it comes to conversation, a woman will want to experience positive feelings while she’s talking to you. Making her feel good during a conversation is essential to generating major attraction.
The feminine essence is all about emotions; if you can trigger the right ones within your date, she’ll pin them on you. Play your cards right, and she’ll inexplicably be feeling very good the next time she thinks about you.
In this case, being guilty by association is a GOOD thing.
Focus on upbeat topics that serve a springboard for other positive things to talk about later on. For instance, try sharing interesting anecdotes.
A good way of doing this is by telling her about the time you got into a funny situation but came out of it OK. The point here is to give her an idea that you’re a relatively optimistic guy who can keep his cool and take the bad stuff in stride.
Her subconscious needs some assurance that you can handle life’s curveballs because you’ll eventually have to protect her from the same stuff later on. It’s simply her feminine side seeking the rock-steadiness of your masculinity.
So obviously you should skip any subjects that could bring down the good vibe. Conversation no-no’s include ex-partners, political affairs, anything related to bodily functions (not even as a joke), violence and any other negative stuff that will turn her off.
And if you really want to seal the deal, you can talk about romantic stuff without coming off as cheesy. What I like to do is introduce mushy topics in a fairly indirect way.
(This also lays down the foundations for the latter stages of courtship, but anyway…)
For instance, try bringing up a romantic situation you heard about from a friend and tell your date what YOU think about it. After that, get her talking about the subject by asking for HER take on it.
Let me give you an example: “You know, I think it’s weird in a cool way when two people just connect and sort of fall into their own little world. I mean, one minute you’re baring your souls to each other and then it’s back to reality the next. The transition can be jarring but exciting at the same time. Have you ever felt like that?”
Of course, there are a hundred other questions you can pattern in the same way. Get creative and think of people, places and situations which will help you think of something to ask her during your date.
Good conversationalists make it a point to look into the other person’s eyes while she’s talking. It’s OK for your gaze to be elsewhere as you’re talking (while occasionally looking at her), but look into her eyes with a reassuring smile when it’s her turn to speak.
Trust me - your undivided attention is one of the most powerful tools to win her over. While you’re at it, don’t be stingy with the compliments. LISTEN to what she has to say so you can appropriately praise something important to her.
When she says, “I’m more comfortable doing freelance work than being in an office all day”, you say “That’s cool, I’ve always admired women who can earn their keep on their OWN terms rather than marching to someone else’s beat.”
While the rest of the guys out there are giving compliments about her looks, throw her off by praising something OTHER than her body. She’ll appreciate you for it.
Remember, the general goal is to establish yourself as the guy that’ll make her think “Hmm, this guy seems interesting – let’s see what happens…”
You don’t have to make her fall in love with you on the spot…you just have to lead her in that direction.
The things that we’ve talked about so far are meant to arouse this curiosity – not to mention keep you FAR away from the “friends zone”.
Lastly, you’ll want to keep the time on your first date to a maximum of one hour so you can wrap things up while the getting’s good. It may sound counter-intuitive to leave when the chemistry is at its peak, but think about the benefits of ending on a good note.
Try telling her, “Oh man, I d really like to stay longer, but I have an appointment to go to…maybe we can get together next week?” When you introduce a time constraint, she’ll savor your moments together and will actually be SAD to see you go.
How do you think that will affect your chances for a SECOND date?
When you call up your girl to ask her out, make sure you give her the impression that you have somewhere else to go after the date. This way, she won’t have to worry about things dragging on in case (heaven forbid) that the date doesn’t go too well.
(No pressure, remember?)
Just to remind you of course, that you have every intention to have a good time with her. You’re only putting a time limit on the date so she’ll WANT to see you after it ends.
I’ve advised a lot of my friends to go with this general dating plan and they’ve yielded very favorable results.
(The occasional flaky chick notwithstanding, of course – hey, life’s funny like that sometimes!)
Speaking of great results, remember that this is only the opening act. Once you’ve had a good feel of her personality and the things that she likes, you’ll be able to zero in on what you can do the next time around.
Perhaps she needs a couple more of these quick coffee shop dates to really set the stage, but eventually you’ll have enough leverage to take things more seriously.
Once you’re ready to go to the next level, up the ante by putting together a bunch of activities you can do in the span of a day (as opposed to just an hour). Your previous dates should give you the “intelligence” to help figure out what things you can do on your next “assignment”.
If she’s into everything art-related, then summon your inner James Bond and take her to the local museum or to a bookstore if a new title is coming out. Then you could go to the park to grab a quick bite (better if you know about her favorite snack beforehand!).
Whatever you have planned, your follow-up dates should allow you both plenty of time to chill out and bond throughout the day. If you plan things correctly, you’d be surprised how long even ONE day will seem to her.
Create enough noteworthy experiences in her mind, and she’ll carry those memories for a long time to come.
Having said that, do your homework and have a backup plan ready to prevent any unforeseen factors from raining on your parade. And if your date doesn’t exactly go according to plan, don’t flip out.
It’s not cool to blow a gasket in front of her because she’ll be looking to you for direction and initiative. If you blow it off like it’s no big deal, then she’ll follow suit.
Well, that about does it for now. By the way, you should take a look at this little gem of knowledge before you go.
This book is your direct link to the masters of seduction because they’ve put down the techniques and attitudes they’ve used in their own romantic pursuits.
As a bunch of wise men once said, “You wanted the best, you’ve got the best!”
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of http://www.meetyoursweet.com/
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s “Fireworks With Females,” your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
These often overlooked avenues are GREAT ways to smoothly transition from acquaintances to friends…
…and hopefully, into potential lovers.
The key to doing that is by going on a DATE with her. There are two basic ways to gradually lead her into this, namely: hanging out with her along with your mutual friend(s) AND continuing the interaction online through networking sites like Facebook.
However, it’s cool if you’re the kind of guy who likes to do cold approaches on total strangers in everyday places like bookstores, record bars, convenience stores and so on. After all, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.
Regardless of your chosen method of meeting women however, you obviously need to go out with her on an exclusive date if a relationship is your goal.
Personally, the dating method I recommend is a gradual, multi-tiered approach. What I mean by that is I take things one step at a time, continuously gauging and ESCALATING a woman’s interest little by little.
You see, a successful pursuit is the result of mastering the COURTSHIP PROCESS whose length depends upon a given woman’s disposition. If you plan your dates around this basic context, it won’t be long until she’ll be chasing after you like a lovesick puppy.
So let me break down the dating structure I’ve successfully adapted over the years. Initially, you’ll need to know her better in a one-on-one environment before taking things up a notch.
That’s why your first date with her should be a RELAXED social affair. There shouldn’t be any pressure at all at this point (although a little sexual tension is fine and even expected), so keep things light and FUN.
You know the typical scene in a TV show where the leading lady is flustered over what to wear on the first date? Don’t put your woman in this predicament.
This cliché has been done to death and you should be SHAKING THINGS UP with her. If you want to break the mold, you’re going to have to skip the typical romantic date routine and be INNOVATIVE.
How do you do this? Simple – instead of asking your lady out to an expensive restaurant, meet up with her at a casual public place like a coffee shop or a juice bar.
This is an excellent way to minimize the natural jitters that come with a first date (for BOTH you and her). While you’ll NEVER really get rid of all those fluttering butterflies, you’ll have an easier time focusing on HER and have a good time all around.
After all, the point of going on a date is to ENJOY her company, and not treat it like it was a job interview where you have to prove yourself to her. Don’t fall into that NEEDY mindset.
Furthermore, innovative first dates like these happen to be VERY budget-friendly. NOT that I’m saying you should be a cheapskate, but splurging right at the beginning screws up the courtship process.
This isn’t about doing the “pulling-out-all-the-stops” kind of stuff, but rather doing them at the RIGHT TIME. In her mind, these things will have way more impact and value if they’re given as a reward rather than something that doesn’t need to be earned.
Besides, romance has a much easier time to blossom when you’re not projecting any expectations.
(I’m not saying though that it’s not possible for the sparks to fly so early on…)
In case that it does, your lucky date will feel like it’s the most NATURAL thing in the world because she wasn’t FORCED into it.
Bottom line: avoid making a huge production out of the first date.
With that said however, going on a low-pressure date doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plant subtle hints of romance in her head.
But we’ll save that for later – right now, let’s talk about setting up the first date.
I’m assuming at this point that you’ve already made initial contact with her (either through your friends or on your own) and have obtained that ever-important phone number.
Generally, it’s advisable to call her back within a maximum of one week after that first encounter. Wait any longer and the rapport that you have may FADE away into nothingness.
If at all possible, call her at HOME so she’ll have a better chance of writing down the details. Emails as well as voice and text messages are at risk of being accidentally deleted or overlooked. Even calling her mobile isn’t a good idea because she may be distracted or won’t have anything to write with.
If there’s one thing you should know about inviting her, it’s the importance of having a DEFINITE PLAN with specific details (i.e. the time and place where YOU want to meet). The worst way to do this is blurt something out like, “Hey there, remember me? Why don’t we grab a bite at any place you want…any time is good for me too…”
Remember, women appreciate a guy with a firm masculine essence. If you’re gonna call her up and sound unsure, it’s a HUGE giveaway that you’re not really in control of your life.
Is she prejudging you? You better believe it. Don’t tell me that your own brain isn’t running in the background when you’re checking out potential women to approach.
That’s just the female mind at work, brother – sometimes, it’s better to go with the flow than against it.
As much as you can, suggest a place you’re already familiar with so you have the homecourt advantage. Like I said, you might feel antsy anyway, so you might as well pick a comfortable spot.
It’s only natural for anyone to have a sense of uneasiness when they’re on unfamiliar ground. Keep this at bay by inviting your girl somewhere you’d feel at home.
Keep in mind that your time and venue should be at a place convenient not just for her, but for you as well. It’s ok to be reasonably flexible about setting up a date - but not to the point where you have to travel half across town or cancel other important appointments just for her.
Once you’ve agreed to a date, it’s time to run you through the basics. As mentioned earlier, you’re going to have to get a head start on creating romantic thoughts swirling in that brain of hers.
The cool thing about the “casual” first date is that you can totally accomplish the said objective under the radar. In such a relaxed context, she won’t know what hit her!
So how do you create this effect? Well, it’s done through the little things.
When I say “little”, I’m referring to fleeting little indications that you’re into her. You don’t want to push her away by telegraphing TOO much interest early on, so you can do it in smaller, bite-sized chunks of subtlety.
When it comes to conversation, a woman will want to experience positive feelings while she’s talking to you. Making her feel good during a conversation is essential to generating major attraction.
The feminine essence is all about emotions; if you can trigger the right ones within your date, she’ll pin them on you. Play your cards right, and she’ll inexplicably be feeling very good the next time she thinks about you.
In this case, being guilty by association is a GOOD thing.
Focus on upbeat topics that serve a springboard for other positive things to talk about later on. For instance, try sharing interesting anecdotes.
A good way of doing this is by telling her about the time you got into a funny situation but came out of it OK. The point here is to give her an idea that you’re a relatively optimistic guy who can keep his cool and take the bad stuff in stride.
Her subconscious needs some assurance that you can handle life’s curveballs because you’ll eventually have to protect her from the same stuff later on. It’s simply her feminine side seeking the rock-steadiness of your masculinity.
So obviously you should skip any subjects that could bring down the good vibe. Conversation no-no’s include ex-partners, political affairs, anything related to bodily functions (not even as a joke), violence and any other negative stuff that will turn her off.
And if you really want to seal the deal, you can talk about romantic stuff without coming off as cheesy. What I like to do is introduce mushy topics in a fairly indirect way.
(This also lays down the foundations for the latter stages of courtship, but anyway…)
For instance, try bringing up a romantic situation you heard about from a friend and tell your date what YOU think about it. After that, get her talking about the subject by asking for HER take on it.
Let me give you an example: “You know, I think it’s weird in a cool way when two people just connect and sort of fall into their own little world. I mean, one minute you’re baring your souls to each other and then it’s back to reality the next. The transition can be jarring but exciting at the same time. Have you ever felt like that?”
Of course, there are a hundred other questions you can pattern in the same way. Get creative and think of people, places and situations which will help you think of something to ask her during your date.
Good conversationalists make it a point to look into the other person’s eyes while she’s talking. It’s OK for your gaze to be elsewhere as you’re talking (while occasionally looking at her), but look into her eyes with a reassuring smile when it’s her turn to speak.
Trust me - your undivided attention is one of the most powerful tools to win her over. While you’re at it, don’t be stingy with the compliments. LISTEN to what she has to say so you can appropriately praise something important to her.
When she says, “I’m more comfortable doing freelance work than being in an office all day”, you say “That’s cool, I’ve always admired women who can earn their keep on their OWN terms rather than marching to someone else’s beat.”
While the rest of the guys out there are giving compliments about her looks, throw her off by praising something OTHER than her body. She’ll appreciate you for it.
Remember, the general goal is to establish yourself as the guy that’ll make her think “Hmm, this guy seems interesting – let’s see what happens…”
You don’t have to make her fall in love with you on the spot…you just have to lead her in that direction.
The things that we’ve talked about so far are meant to arouse this curiosity – not to mention keep you FAR away from the “friends zone”.
Lastly, you’ll want to keep the time on your first date to a maximum of one hour so you can wrap things up while the getting’s good. It may sound counter-intuitive to leave when the chemistry is at its peak, but think about the benefits of ending on a good note.
Try telling her, “Oh man, I d really like to stay longer, but I have an appointment to go to…maybe we can get together next week?” When you introduce a time constraint, she’ll savor your moments together and will actually be SAD to see you go.
How do you think that will affect your chances for a SECOND date?
When you call up your girl to ask her out, make sure you give her the impression that you have somewhere else to go after the date. This way, she won’t have to worry about things dragging on in case (heaven forbid) that the date doesn’t go too well.
(No pressure, remember?)
Just to remind you of course, that you have every intention to have a good time with her. You’re only putting a time limit on the date so she’ll WANT to see you after it ends.
I’ve advised a lot of my friends to go with this general dating plan and they’ve yielded very favorable results.
(The occasional flaky chick notwithstanding, of course – hey, life’s funny like that sometimes!)
Speaking of great results, remember that this is only the opening act. Once you’ve had a good feel of her personality and the things that she likes, you’ll be able to zero in on what you can do the next time around.
Perhaps she needs a couple more of these quick coffee shop dates to really set the stage, but eventually you’ll have enough leverage to take things more seriously.
Once you’re ready to go to the next level, up the ante by putting together a bunch of activities you can do in the span of a day (as opposed to just an hour). Your previous dates should give you the “intelligence” to help figure out what things you can do on your next “assignment”.
If she’s into everything art-related, then summon your inner James Bond and take her to the local museum or to a bookstore if a new title is coming out. Then you could go to the park to grab a quick bite (better if you know about her favorite snack beforehand!).
Whatever you have planned, your follow-up dates should allow you both plenty of time to chill out and bond throughout the day. If you plan things correctly, you’d be surprised how long even ONE day will seem to her.
Create enough noteworthy experiences in her mind, and she’ll carry those memories for a long time to come.
Having said that, do your homework and have a backup plan ready to prevent any unforeseen factors from raining on your parade. And if your date doesn’t exactly go according to plan, don’t flip out.
It’s not cool to blow a gasket in front of her because she’ll be looking to you for direction and initiative. If you blow it off like it’s no big deal, then she’ll follow suit.
Well, that about does it for now. By the way, you should take a look at this little gem of knowledge before you go.
This book is your direct link to the masters of seduction because they’ve put down the techniques and attitudes they’ve used in their own romantic pursuits.
As a bunch of wise men once said, “You wanted the best, you’ve got the best!”
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of http://www.meetyoursweet.com/
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s “Fireworks With Females,” your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
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