7 Questions You Have to Ask Before Jumping on the Plane to Meet Her

You have met your true love online. Is she for real?

The entire world is desperate to find the real love. As the popular songs sounds, 'All You Need is Love'. It is true: to love and to be loved is probably the most important thing in our life. But what to do if you are not sure - is it Love with a capital "L" or just another temporary flirt?

Doubting if the person you are with is the right one for you is a normal thing especially if you have meet that person through online dating sites and you never have meet her face to face.

But there are some things to consider, especially if she is miles away from you that can help you make up your mind if that person is worth to spend your money and time with.

1. For how long do you known her?

If you just met her - forget about that plane ticket for the moment. :)
If there are less than 4-6 months since you two have met, your love can be just an illusion. Wait until you know each other better and talk online or on the phone as much as you can to get some trust and comfort in the relationship.

2. What do you talk about?

I am sure that you like to stick to sweet love talk but how she reacts if you are asking her about her family, her friends? Does she gives you details or didn't want you to know too much about them? You can find out more about her if you know how her friends and family are. You can even talk with her friends online and try to know them this way. But if she don't tell you too much about people around her, this fact have to make you suspicious about this lady. Is she embarrassed to talk about you in front of her friends or does she have something to hide to you?

3. Do you find her attractive?

Does love depends on sex? I'm sure you already know the answer. Yes it does.  How can be love be complete without the mornings you are waking up in your lover's arms after a hot passionate night?
So if you talk about HER to YOUR friends all the time and you are already dreaming about her and you didn't even touched her is a good point, this relationship can have a future, a good one :)

4. Do you think, honestly, that she likes you?

You can ask for an outside opinion to your best friend or test her. Yes I know that is unfair but everything is fair in love and war. Doesn't it? So ask her to do some things for you. But what she can do if she is miles away from you, you'll ask. A lot of things:

 - read a book than talk about that book to see how carefully she read it;
 - make some photo especially for you... in special places;
 - buy a CD with some music you like; etc

When you are asking her these things you have to be careful not to ask something too expensive, or something what she couldn't do even she want to. But be specific about the things you are asking and ask it in a polite way. If you see that she is trying as hard as she can to do what you are asking her then she is yours :)
It means that she appreciates you and is curios about what you like, and she is interested in you.

5. If she would win a large sum of money, what would she do with it?

Just ask her. You have all the chances to be surprised by the answers. :)
It could be: buy new designer clothes, buying everything for herself and/or her purse dog, probably give the money to charity, and quit her job mid-shift. You can discover a lot about a person from the answers to this question. But if somewhere in the answer is your name involved you can smile - she is thinking about you like you are there in here daily life.


6. Do you have a lot in common?

Maybe she is hot and you like her, but a long term relationship involve more than sex. You know that, donÆt you?

So what hobbies do you have in common, where do you both enjoy going in vacations or weekends? What passions you have those are interesting for her too?
These are some important things to consider when you are thinking to spend a little fortune on a plane ticket.

7. Is she the best you can get?

Don't compromise! We compromise in love because we are so desperate to be loved. But compromising does not lead to feeling loved.

Finding real love has nothing to do with chance, looks, location, or timing. Finding your perfect love-mate has to do with your thinking, your qualities, your affirmations, your spirituality, and your commitment to being with a woman who can love you as equally as you will love her.

So if you considered this few issues and you still are eager to meet her face to face, buy that ticket, it could change your life.


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4 Rules to transform an long distance love on the Internet into an normal relationship

Let's suppose that you are meeting someone online and that person seem to be the mach of your life, but is living far away from you. Does it worth to spend your time to a long distance relationship with this person? But, what if this person is realy your soulmate?

You may be surprised how much a relationship can grow if you work at it. If you know and aply some simple rules, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.

Distance, combined with telephone calls and writing, electronically or through snail-mail, can foster an enviable intimacy which results from learning about another's qualities, values, ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and aspirations. This type of intimacy can make your coming together much more special.
As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging.  Just read the following rules and try to keep in mind and apply:

1.The quality of the relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the  ability to share feelings openly with each other. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her,  he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.

2. Make the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.

3.  Start to keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes. And when you do make contact, don't just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way you each stay aware of how the other is thinking, feeling and developing.  Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.

4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner of how much you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss you more with the constant urge to see you. But don't be possessive.  Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those will help the relationship develop successfully.

If your partner truly wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to have you next to her or him. As long as you both trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch,  your relationship can turn out into a happy normal relationship.

Ultimately, a normal relationship is the goal, doesn't it.

You Make Me Feel...

Do other people make you feel things?
Do they make you feel happy or sad?

I’m curious. How do they make you feel this way?

Do they say, “Hey, here’s a tin of sadness.”

Or maybe they say, “Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I’ve got one here you can have.”

Can you find happiness or sadness on the supermarket shelves, pre-packaged and ready to go?

Shopaholics amongst you would argue that you could; however I would say you can’t.

We often rely on other people to “make” us feel a certain way. We rely on them to do something, say something, be something in order for us to feel happy. If they don’t do what we are expecting them to, we get upset, sad and hurt.

In short, we often attempt to control other people in order to control how we feel; that is, our emotions.
And when we do this, we are setting ourselves up for failure, because we can’t control anyone else. We cannot force anyone to do anything or assume they will.

There is just one person we control; ourselves.

People don’t make us feel certain emotions. We choose to feel them. We decide to react in a certain way. We make assumptions about what people mean. We leap to conclusions.

No one can give you a tin of unhappiness, or a bucket of joy. These things are not physical items that can be passed from person to person. They are intangible items that exist only in ourselves.

In fact just the other day I was at a wedding. I told one of my friends how wonderful she looked and how much I liked her outfit. She leapt to the conclusion that I was being sarcastic and chose to be offended by what was a genuine compliment.

Had I even been being sarcastic, she could have chosen to be complimented and replied with a, “I’m glad you like it” and felt better about herself.

There was a guy I knew when I was younger. He was short, balding, spotty and he had been short changed in the looks department. Yet whenever we went out to bars, he’d wander up to any pretty woman and start talking to her. If she turned him down, he’d shrug his shoulders and continue.

I don’t think it ever even occurred to him to feel bad about these rejections. He’d just smile and say, “Your loss” and move on to the next one.

Believe it or not, each of you are in control of yourself and how you feel. You can choose to feel anyway you want. Right now, you could choose to feel happy; or I am sure you could choose to feel sad. Just by thinking about it, you could change how you feel.

It’s almost magic isn’t it?

So what about choosing how you feel when you are interacting with other people?

The vast majority of people run on auto-pilot. They allow their body and mind to more or less get on with it, not worrying too much about the programs that are running or the condition of it. It doesn’t interfere with them too much so they allow it to get on with it.

It’s like watching all the cars driving around a city and not realising there is someone inside controlling them.
Most people have forgotten there is this “person” inside of them controlling them.

If you choose, you can take back control of how you feel and stop relying on other people to meet certain conditions.

When you go to the office and someone says, “Good Morning” to you, you can choose to grumble and mutter, “There’s nothing good about it.” Or, you can choose to reply in kind and say, “It’s a fantastic morning.”

That is, you can choose to feel bad or choose to feel good.
Which do you prefer?

Realise that you are the only person who can make you feel anything and stop allowing the people around you to make you feel bad. Decide to feel good and enjoy yourself.

If someone turns you down or rejects you, “It’s their loss” or something similar.

If someone says insults you, “Poor thing, must be confused” or something similar.

Decide to take back control of yourself and your life and to stop being on auto-pilot. Choose how you are going to feel instead of allowing other people to choose for you.

Bring Love Into Your Life

So many people are complaining about the lack of love in their life. They act as if some stranger decided one day to take away the love out of their lives. They hold on to lovers already gone since eternity, or they dream about a partner coming into their life to give them everything they are not able to give themselves. They balance between hope and desperation. They look for love outside themselves and believe one day a charming prince on a white horse will knock at the door and take them away to live for ever happy in a castle for away from reality.

Other people are trying to survive in a bad relationship that holds their greatness hostage. They live in fear and anger every day but don’t know how to get out of this prison.

Do you know such people? Does this sound like you? Do you feel lonely, are you dreaming of the right one who will show up one day and end all the misery you’re going through now?

The bad news is this will not happen.
The good news is YOU can do a lot yourself to feel loved.
Let me explain.
Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors : the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all : the more love there is.
Picture this building of life in your mental eye. In the cellar you will find people like rapers, thiefs, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the groundfloor you will find a lot of people. In fact most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hotdog in the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.
Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life IS easy, life IS light. The cellar, groundfloor and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life (think of the one who kills the husband of the woman he wants to live with, or those who kill other minded people in order to be free to live like they want). This will never give freedom or love.
So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love?
First you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now?
Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is is the groundfloor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be at the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life at the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low.
So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.
What to do? You decided where you want to be. What you will do now? Should you wait until someone will knock on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!
So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash you inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called Internet and which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.
So first you decide where you want to be. Than you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask help of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.
Once you get at the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will meet automatically people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.
Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go at their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!
Move yourself up.
If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this : don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for himself. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me : life is wonderful!

Sex vs. Romance

...and believe that finally they may have the answer.

There are two distinct differences in the areas of the brain associated with sexual arousal and emotional responses typical of being romantically involved, and using brain scans. Scientists were able to decipher the distinctions people make-in their brains-when presented with sexual stimuli and then pictures of their wives and/or girlfriends. (By the way, the studies were done on females as well, we will use the term him for the sake of simplicity.)

Subjects who had very recently entered into new love relationships were hooked up to electro scanners and given a series of questions to answer pertaining to their new loves. Their levels of dopamine soared when answering the questions, and appeared mostly to stimulate the right side of the brain, usually associated with rewards that are not typically in the instant gratification section. This was thought to be because romance and love is not part of instant gratification, as is thought to be sexual encounters, porn, and impulse control associated with the left side of the brain. When the same subjects were shown sexually explicit material or answered explicit questions, the scans on the left side of the brain reacted.

More importantly, the areas of the brain which are thought to act as the relationship matures changed strongly when these same questions were answered by couples who had been involved for several years, leading scientists to believe that as we mature in our relationships, so does our brain activity in response to that relationship. This could also explain why couples who are very much in love also experience a sense of the spark going out of their relationship after a few years. It's not that they aren't attracted to each other any longer; it’s that their brain waves have matured. This could give much hope to couples thinking about separating because they don't know what happened to the romance and sex in their relationship. This breakthrough could save you thousands on couples counseling, and give the hope that as the two of you move through this area of your relationship-and you will move through it, studies also show that this is a growth area for couples, not the end of the partnership- you will come out on the other side even more attracted to each other than before.

During the fifties and the beginning of the sixties, these types of studies where not even thought of, couples stayed together even when it seemed impossible. With the explosion of divorce becoming popular in the seventies and more couples separating in order to find them, the need for these types of brain wave studies became very necessary, and a good thing, too.

If you and your partner are in a rut, it's not the right move to separate. Stay together and give it some time, there are other things you can do to spice up your relationship and still stay together. Love is still by far the strongest of all of the emotions.

How to Tell if a Girl Likes You The Three Signs

Although the short answer for how to tell if a girl likes you is “just go for it and ask her out for a drink, you’ll never know unless you ask,” some guys need a bit more concrete cues to figure it out. The issue of “does she like you” is involves dynamics that go beyond the initial “did she accept a first date” and your opening line introductions. If a girl pays attention to you, she has some interest to begin with.
But make sure that the girl you are thinking about does like you for sure before you act or make a move on your suspicions, like talking up forming a serious bond with each other. Signs that she really is in the “like you” zone include:

~Contact

She will try to get in touch with you as often as she can. She might use an excuse to give her phone number to you, without you even asking for it. And if she is with you frequently, and is generally inquisitive regarding everything that interests you, then she obviously likes you. She may even eliminate the mystery of how to tell if a girl likes you, by telling you she does. You are surely blessed if the truth is established this clearly. Generally, women will tend to be subtle and coy, dropping hints and basically hanging around a guy, until he gets the point.

~She’s Infatuated
You will look perfect in her eyes – you simply cannot do anything wrong! Once introduced, she will certainly try to keep the conversation going. She puts you on a pedestal, rather than the reverse routine of a guy over idolyzing the girl. You are way past the how to get a girl stage, if the girl is into you to this extent. In fact, this may be the time to double check whether this girl has any defects attached to her, like obsessiveness, clinginess or low-self-esteem. Did she get with you because she is needy or desperate? But extreme cases aside, if she is infatuated it’s safe to say she likes you.

~She Seeks to Own You
When out with you (and especially when in a group), she will try her best to get your attention. If a girl likes you she will generally let her female counter parts know that she has marked her territory. She will try to intercept your wandering eye, to prevent you from even starting to plan how to get a girl other than her. If you are equally committed as well as into her as well, you will welcome the woman who has attached herself firmly to you. Not only does she like you, she is more then ready to discuss the direction your relationship is going.

Have you ever found yourself making the same mistake over and over simply because you didn’t know any better at the time? We’re all human – from time to time we unintentionally make the occasional blunder due to a bunch of mistaken assumptions running in the back of our mind.

These false beliefs keep us blissfully unaware that our ill-informed decisions will actually lead us to disaster! 
And you know what?  This isn’t a bad thing in itself because learning from our mistakes adds to our body of knowledge.  However, wouldn’t you want to AVOID making these boo-boos if you COULD?
This is why you need to UNLEARN any incorrect notions that could cloud your better judgment.
Sometimes, it just takes another pair of eyes to identify the mindsets that could drive you towards perfectly preventable mistakes. Gain some fresh insight by clicking here

How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind? 

Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them.  When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction.
Thus, let’s take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of:

#1: Guys are into "low maintenance" women.
Actually, this wouldn't be a problem if the term "low maintenance" wasn't misconstrued in the first place.  Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER.

This attitude reminds me of the 1950's housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era.
You know what I'm talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside.

She's the one who's afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much.  This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way.
Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they've become a mere shadow of their former selves.

Being “low maintenance” in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities. 
This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesn’t throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark.

(And I emphasize “OCCASIONAL”, as opposed to “habitually”, but anyway…)
This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum.  When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women don’t often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances.

All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about.
Therefore, it’s NOT about being so laid-back to the point where you’re frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guy’s every whim…

…or even TOLERATE selfishness.

And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself.

Remember, there’s a difference between a cool girl that doesn’t get upset over the little things…

…and the emotional SLAVE who doesn’t have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of “love”.

The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you.
If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say it’s dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend? 

Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies?
Even though we’re always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self. 

The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are.

If you build your universe around whether you’re single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness. 

You wouldn’t want anyone to believe that having a boyfriend is the ONLY thing that motivates you in life, right? You know you’re TOO GOOD to act like that.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s WONDERFUL to have a partner who adores and respects you.  That crazy rush you feel when you fall in love can greatly inspire you do great things in the other areas of your life.

However, my point is that you should still retain a good sense of PERSPECTIVE when you *do* get into a relationship.  What that means is that you’d be just as fine even if you didn’t have a boyfriend at the moment.
Your life was just as fine before you met him, and you can certainly leave if you’re not being treated the way you should be. 

Of course, I don’t mean this in an arrogant way nor am I suggesting that our partners should be the pushovers instead!

All I’m saying is that you shouldn’t be scared to leave the comfort zone of your relationship if it isn’t helping your personal growth.

Also, in no way should you cover up your true feelings by waiving your right to SPEAK UP if you need to (i.e. when the terms are unfavorable). 

A good relationship is always a TWO-WAY street, so don’t let the low-maintenance myth (or rather, misconception) tell you otherwise.

#2: Falling in Love is Eternal Bliss Guaranteed
The other common trap women fall into is the assumption that those butterfly-in-the-stomach feelings you first get when you meet someone will remain CONSTANT in the relationship.

However, this just isn’t going to happen.  Even happily married couples who’ve been together for decades know that their initial infatuation for each other evolved into a deeper and more MATURE sense of loving.
This kind of love goes beyond the initial rush that all new couples go through.  This is the love that’s weathered countless emotional storms, power struggles and other CHALLENGES.

The end result is a rock-solid relationship that doesn’t constantly require you to feel the heart-quickening rush found in infatuation. 

But there’s no reason to panic over this fact of life.  You shouldn’t be afraid of outgrowing this primary stage in your relationship since better things are headed your way.

Over time, the falling in love stage will eventually be replaced by something more powerful in the long run.  It’s just that you’re going to go through a series of trials as a couple before you get there.

Don’t buy into the myth that loving your guy as you do now will be enough to get you through the years.  Remember that neither of you are perfect; somewhere along the way, your “little” differences are going to catch up to you.

(I’ve heard of couples breaking up over their brand of toothpaste, but hopefully your own relationship won’t go to that extreme!)

I’ll be honest with you here – you’re going to FIGHT tooth and nail over things like this, and you’re going to wake up and smell the coffee sooner or later.  But power struggles are NORMAL after the familiarity settles in.

If you can accept the reality that love will inevitably undergo a transformation over time, then you’ll have no reason to worry about the growing pains in your relationship.

Otherwise, insisting that everything will run smoothly or take care of itself will BLIND you to speedbumps in the future.

Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy the moment because being HAPPY is the point of having a relationship, right? 

You just have to be aware that things will change eventually.  However, you can stay happy as long as you’re cool with having to deal with the reality check phase in due time.

(No need to worry your pretty little self about stuff UNTIL you have to!)

All in all, finding happiness in a man’s arms is best done by keeping a REALISTIC perspective no matter how head over heels you may feel at a given moment. 

There are a lot of impractical beliefs and notions that we women are unnecessarily exposed to in these modern times.  Like it or not, picking up unrealistic perceptions of love and dating is just a TV show or DVD rental away.

In this confusing sea of misinformation, a sassy girl definitely needs to keep her wits afloat!  
For the most part, whatever we read in books or see onscreen are distilled versions of life at best.  It doesn’t necessarily reflect what happens in REAL situations!

So we can’t project unrealistic fantasies onto real life and NOT expect to run into problems! 

The real world naturally includes the complexities of human behavior.  You need to keep this in mind when considering what men want from us and what we should expect from them.
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Innovative Ideas For Dates She Will Never Forget

An overlooked approach to seduction is often found in meeting women through friends.  There are advantages found in getting set up by your buddies or colleagues, as well as improving your odds through social networking sites.

These often overlooked avenues are GREAT ways to smoothly transition from acquaintances to friends…

…and hopefully, into potential lovers.

The key to doing that is by going on a DATE with her.  There are two basic ways to gradually lead her into this, namely: hanging out with her along with your mutual friend(s) AND continuing the interaction online through networking sites like Facebook.

However, it’s cool if you’re the kind of guy who likes to do cold approaches on total strangers in everyday places like bookstores, record bars, convenience stores and so on.  After all, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.

Regardless of your chosen method of meeting women however, you obviously need to go out with her on an exclusive date if a relationship is your goal.

Personally, the dating method I recommend is a gradual, multi-tiered approach.  What I mean by that is I take things one step at a time, continuously gauging and ESCALATING a woman’s interest little by little.

You see, a successful pursuit is the result of mastering the COURTSHIP PROCESS whose length depends upon a given woman’s disposition.  If you plan your dates around this basic context, it won’t be long until she’ll be chasing after you like a lovesick puppy.

So let me break down the dating structure I’ve successfully adapted over the years.  Initially, you’ll need to know her better in a one-on-one environment before taking things up a notch.

That’s why your first date with her should be a RELAXED social affair.  There shouldn’t be any pressure at all at this point (although a little sexual tension is fine and even expected), so keep things light and FUN.

You know the typical scene in a TV show where the leading lady is flustered over what to wear on the first date?  Don’t put your woman in this predicament.

This cliché has been done to death and you should be SHAKING THINGS UP with her.  If you want to break the mold, you’re going to have to skip the typical romantic date routine and be INNOVATIVE.

How do you do this?  Simple – instead of asking your lady out to an expensive restaurant, meet up with her at a casual public place like a coffee shop or a juice bar.

This is an excellent way to minimize the natural jitters that come with a first date (for BOTH you and her).  While you’ll NEVER really get rid of all those fluttering butterflies, you’ll have an easier time focusing on HER and have a good time all around.

After all, the point of going on a date is to ENJOY her company, and not treat it like it was a job interview where you have to prove yourself to her.  Don’t fall into that NEEDY mindset.

Furthermore, innovative first dates like these happen to be VERY budget-friendly.  NOT that I’m saying you should be a cheapskate, but splurging right at the beginning screws up the courtship process.

This isn’t about doing the “pulling-out-all-the-stops” kind of stuff, but rather doing them at the RIGHT TIME.  In her mind, these things will have way more impact and value if they’re given as a reward rather than something that doesn’t need to be earned.

Besides, romance has a much easier time to blossom when you’re not projecting any expectations.

(I’m not saying though that it’s not possible for the sparks to fly so early on…)

In case that it does, your lucky date will feel like it’s the most NATURAL thing in the world because she wasn’t FORCED into it.

Bottom line: avoid making a huge production out of the first date.

With that said however, going on a low-pressure date doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plant subtle hints of romance in her head.

But we’ll save that for later – right now, let’s talk about setting up the first date.

I’m assuming at this point that you’ve already made initial contact with her (either through your friends or on your own) and have obtained that ever-important phone number.

Generally, it’s advisable to call her back within a maximum of one week after that first encounter.  Wait any longer and the rapport that you have may FADE away into nothingness.

If at all possible, call her at HOME so she’ll have a better chance of writing down the details.  Emails as well as voice and text messages are at risk of being accidentally deleted or overlooked.  Even calling her mobile isn’t a good idea because she may be distracted or won’t have anything to write with.

If there’s one thing you should know about inviting her, it’s the importance of having a DEFINITE PLAN with specific details (i.e. the time and place where YOU want to meet).  The worst way to do this is blurt something out like, “Hey there, remember me?  Why don’t we grab a bite at any place you want…any time is good for me too…”

Remember, women appreciate a guy with a firm masculine essence.  If you’re gonna call her up and sound unsure, it’s a HUGE giveaway that you’re not really in control of your life.

Is she prejudging you?  You better believe it.  Don’t tell me that your own brain isn’t running in the background when you’re checking out potential women to approach.

That’s just the female mind at work, brother – sometimes, it’s better to go with the flow than against it.

As much as you can, suggest a place you’re already familiar with so you have the homecourt advantage.  Like I said, you might feel antsy anyway, so you might as well pick a comfortable spot.

It’s only natural for anyone to have a sense of uneasiness when they’re on unfamiliar ground.  Keep this at bay by inviting your girl somewhere you’d feel at home.

Keep in mind that your time and venue should be at a place convenient not just for her, but for you as well.  It’s ok to be reasonably flexible about setting up a date - but not to the point where you have to travel half across town or cancel other important appointments just for her.

Once you’ve agreed to a date, it’s time to run you through the basics.  As mentioned earlier, you’re going to have to get a head start on creating romantic thoughts swirling in that brain of hers.

The cool thing about the “casual” first date is that you can totally accomplish the said objective under the radar.  In such a relaxed context, she won’t know what hit her!

So how do you create this effect?  Well, it’s done through the little things.

When I say “little”, I’m referring to fleeting little indications that you’re into her.  You don’t want to push her away by telegraphing TOO much interest early on, so you can do it in smaller, bite-sized chunks of subtlety.

When it comes to conversation, a woman will want to experience positive feelings while she’s talking to you.  Making her feel good during a conversation is essential to generating major attraction.

The feminine essence is all about emotions; if you can trigger the right ones within your date, she’ll pin them on you.  Play your cards right, and she’ll inexplicably be feeling very good the next time she thinks about you.

In this case, being guilty by association is a GOOD thing.

Focus on upbeat topics that serve a springboard for other positive things to talk about later on.  For instance, try sharing interesting anecdotes.

A good way of doing this is by telling her about the time you got into a funny situation but came out of it OK.  The point here is to give her an idea that you’re a relatively optimistic guy who can keep his cool and take the bad stuff in stride.

Her subconscious needs some assurance that you can handle life’s curveballs because you’ll eventually have to protect her from the same stuff later on.  It’s simply her feminine side seeking the rock-steadiness of your masculinity.

So obviously you should skip any subjects that could bring down the good vibe.  Conversation no-no’s include ex-partners, political affairs, anything related to bodily functions (not even as a joke), violence and any other negative stuff that will turn her off.

And if you really want to seal the deal, you can talk about romantic stuff without coming off as cheesy.  What I like to do is introduce mushy topics in a fairly indirect way.

(This also lays down the foundations for the latter stages of courtship, but anyway…)

For instance, try bringing up a romantic situation you heard about from a friend and tell your date what YOU think about it.  After that, get her talking about the subject by asking for HER take on it.

Let me give you an example: “You know, I think it’s weird in a cool way when two people just connect and sort of fall into their own little world.  I mean, one minute you’re baring your souls to each other and then it’s back to reality the next.  The transition can be jarring but exciting at the same time.  Have you ever felt like that?”

Of course, there are a hundred other questions you can pattern in the same way.  Get creative and think of people, places and situations which will help you think of something to ask her during your date.

Good conversationalists make it a point to look into the other person’s eyes while she’s talking.  It’s OK for your gaze to be elsewhere as you’re talking (while occasionally looking at her), but look into her eyes with a reassuring smile when it’s her turn to speak.

Trust me - your undivided attention is one of the most powerful tools to win her over.  While you’re at it, don’t be stingy with the compliments.  LISTEN to what she has to say so you can appropriately praise something important to her.

When she says, “I’m more comfortable doing freelance work than being in an office all day”, you say “That’s cool, I’ve always admired women who can earn their keep on their OWN terms rather than marching to someone else’s beat.”

While the rest of the guys out there are giving compliments about her looks, throw her off by praising something OTHER than her body.  She’ll appreciate you for it.

Remember, the general goal is to establish yourself as the guy that’ll make her think “Hmm, this guy seems interesting – let’s see what happens…”

You don’t have to make her fall in love with you on the spot…you just have to lead her in that direction.

The things that we’ve talked about so far are meant to arouse this curiosity – not to mention keep you FAR away from the “friends zone”.

Lastly, you’ll want to keep the time on your first date to a maximum of one hour so you can wrap things up while the getting’s good.  It may sound counter-intuitive to leave when the chemistry is at its peak, but think about the benefits of ending on a good note.

Try telling her, “Oh man, I d really like to stay longer, but I have an appointment to go to…maybe we can get together next week?”  When you introduce a time constraint, she’ll savor your moments together and will actually be SAD to see you go.

How do you think that will affect your chances for a SECOND date?

When you call up your girl to ask her out, make sure you give her the impression that you have somewhere else to go after the date.  This way, she won’t have to worry about things dragging on in case (heaven forbid) that the date doesn’t go too well.

(No pressure, remember?)

Just to remind you of course, that you have every intention to have a good time with her.  You’re only putting a time limit on the date so she’ll WANT to see you after it ends.

I’ve advised a lot of my friends to go with this general dating plan and they’ve yielded very favorable results.

(The occasional flaky chick notwithstanding, of course – hey, life’s funny like that sometimes!)

Speaking of great results, remember that this is only the opening act.  Once you’ve had a good feel of her personality and the things that she likes, you’ll be able to zero in on what you can do the next time around.

Perhaps she needs a couple more of these quick coffee shop dates to really set the stage, but eventually you’ll have enough leverage to take things more seriously.

Once you’re ready to go to the next level, up the ante by putting together a bunch of activities you can do in the span of a day (as opposed to just an hour).  Your previous dates should give you the “intelligence” to help figure out what things you can do on your next “assignment”.

If she’s into everything art-related, then summon your inner James Bond and take her to the local museum or to a bookstore if a new title is coming out.  Then you could go to the park to grab a quick bite (better if you know about her favorite snack beforehand!).

Whatever you have planned, your follow-up dates should allow you both plenty of time to chill out and bond throughout the day.  If you plan things correctly, you’d be surprised how long even ONE day will seem to her.

Create enough noteworthy experiences in her mind, and she’ll carry those memories for a long time to come.

Having said that, do your homework and have a backup plan ready to prevent any unforeseen factors from raining on your parade.  And if your date doesn’t exactly go according to plan, don’t flip out.

It’s not cool to blow a gasket in front of her because she’ll be looking to you for direction and initiative.  If you blow it off like it’s no big deal, then she’ll follow suit.

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Conversation Tips - How to Talk To Men

Everybody has sticking points, whether it’s work, relationships or life in general.  But that’s fine and dandy because the learning process is what makes us better women.

Perhaps you’re struggling with certain behaviors or fears that might be keeping you from making the most out of your love life.  Not to worry though; author Mirabelle Summers has created the ultimate game-free guide on how to do just THAT.

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Now then - one of the most common stumbling blocks to more romance in a woman’s life is a simple lack of conversational know-now.  The good news is that this can be LEARNED and immediately applied in your everyday life…

…especially while you’re face-to-face with a potential lover!

Oftentimes the problem is that some well-meaning girls overlook the importance of having the right communication style.  It’s not that they WANT to be boring; they’re merely unaware of how to hold a conversation.

No sensible gal is going to get up in the morning and tell herself, “I wonder how I’m gonna BORE the socks off of that cute stranger I’m going run into at the coffee shop today?”

If you want to become a better conversationalist, it’s important to consider if you’ve grown accustomed to certain patterns of speech that are actually counterproductive.  Sometimes, you need to step back and ask if you’ve fallen into certain habits which you’ve “numbed” yourself to over time.

So the first step towards any form of improvement is SELF-AWARENESS.  Think about the way you normally carry a conversation with a guy and ask yourself if your style could use some polishing.
Of course, I don’t want you to start beating yourself up if you feel that the way you talk to men isn’t as attractive as you might want it to be.  Like I said earlier, there’s always room for improvement, and it’s definitely a good thing to know EXACTLY which areas can be improved.

With that said, I want you to go over the following tip you can use to enhance your communication style:

# 1: Rapport is Key

It may sound like the simplest thing in the world to say, but the fact is lots of perfectly adorable women have a hard time doing this.

It’s mainly because they only have a VAGUE idea of what rapport is, so naturally you can’t create something you can’t really put a pin on!

So let’s clear up the fog surrounding this topic and identify what it is exactly.  In a nutshell, having rapport is about having a CONNECTION with someone.

You know how you hook up your iPod or mobile phone to your computer, and they suddenly have this mutual understanding?  It’s kind of like that, but on a DEEPER level.

Let me give you a clearer picture: if you were at a party packed with all manner of gorgeous, articulate and friendly men, which one of them are you likely to REALLY fall for?

Since they’re all visually and mentally appealing, you might have a hard time figuring out which guy suits you.  Chances are the one who naturally understands you will be the man you’d want to date.

Why is that?  Well, doesn’t it feel just GREAT when a person instinctively senses where you’re coming from? 

I’m sure you’ve met at least one person in your life who you inexplicably feel drawn to.  That’s because that person seems to perfectly understand and echo back your own opinions or feelings.

That sense of being connected is what rapport is all about.  Fortunately, it’s actually not hard at all to do this in your daily conversations.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to be on the “same page” as the person you’re talking to.  There are easy ways to do this.

For example, keep an ear out for specific concepts or values that are personally close to the person you’re in a conversation with.  If he brings up that it’s important to him to have some quiet time everyday, store that away for future reference.

Later on you can echo back that same concept by telling him about how YOU like to spend your alone time:  “At the end of the day I like to spend an hour or so curling up with a good book and a nice warm cup of chamomile tea.  It really helps decompress after a crazy day, you know what I mean?”

Step back and watch his eyes light up like a Christmas tree!  By taking something close to his heart and giving it back to him in a genuine way, your words will make quite the IMPACT on him.

So, rapport really has to do a lot with speaking the same “language”.  Now of course, I don’t mean you have to start mimicking everything he’s saying like a little parrot, but rather do it in an EMOTIONAL sense.

Discovering and talking about the values that resonate with you BOTH is a way to speak the same language. 
When you think about it, we often adapt our modes of speech depending on the context we’re in.

For example, you wouldn’t talk to your friends, family, colleagues, or elders in the same EXACT way would you?

So don’t think that you’re being a phony by making an effort to speak in the same way that he does.  You’re simply getting into the practice of communicating in a way that’s APPROPRIATE to the situation. 
And when it comes to chatting up gorgeous guys, a meeting of the minds is best done through rapport-building speech patterns!

# 2: Switch Off Your Brain

Don’t get me wrong – the kinds of guys who are worth your time are into women of SUBSTANCE.  And certainly, this next conversational tip is not about acting air-headed or ditzy.

All I’m advising you do is keep your sexy brain from going into overdrive!  A common mistake that intelligent women often commit is to think too much about certain things.

They get so caught up in their own world of thoughts that they’ll come off as aloof or distracted…

…when in reality they’re just petrified from FEAR of not knowing what to say next.

If you don’t want your brain from stalling on you, then you have to quiet your thoughts and shut out the nagging distractions in your pretty little noggin.

The attraction-killing thoughts I’m talking about are those coming from the inner critic trying to sabotage your conversation.  Sometimes, we make the mistake of mentally scolding ourselves after saying something that felt out of place or unfunny.

Other times, we’re lost in a maze of thoughts on what to say next or get bogged down in a swamp of self-consciousness.

When you feel your brain going in this direction, acknowledge what’s going on and DROP these mental distractions.

There’s a handy little trick you can do in case your attention is drifting off to la-la land: instead of obsessing about how you look in his eyes or what he might be thinking, simply divert your attention to HIM.

It’s a girl’s best defense against looking aloof or detached from the conversation (or from this plane of reality for that matter!).  So remember to shut off this part of your brain, and you’ll do just fine.

On another note however, sometimes it’s the guy you’re talking to that’s feeling self-conscious.  If that’s the case, then don’t act or talk in any way that might give away you’re AWARE of it.

Just play it cool and don’t dwell on the vibe he’s giving off.  It’ll only make things more awkward if you let his state affect your own.

# 3: Humor is Your Best Friend

Maybe you’re still feeling each other out and you’re trying to get a handle on how to connect to this hunk of a guy.  But the awkward flow of your conversation is creating a major interference in your connection so you’re having a hard time “broadcasting” your signal.

Fear not, friend!  The quickest way to clear up all that “static” is by creating a private joke which you can share with him.  When you both have some knee-slapping ground to start on, this accelerates the rapport-building process.

My long-time friend Marcus has a great story to illustrate my point.  He says:

“One of my first jobs was a freelance product writer for all sorts of health merchandise.  During one assignment I was talking with this guy who was telling me about the benefits of a sports bracelet that supposedly reduces muscular fatigue.  I had to put on the bracelet and pretended how less tense my arm felt as I was stretching it. Monique, his pretty sales assistant, was visibly chuckling at how funny I looked during the product demo (though she tried her best to hide it).”

Marcus was then able to use this funny incident as an inside joke when he started chatting up Monqiue.  To her delight, he referred to the silly arm-stretching debacle several times during their conversation.

To his benefit, Monique was game enough to tease him about it when they eventually started dating.  The moral of the story here is that when used properly, humor serves as a great bridge between two people.
Heck, any doctor knows about the therapeutic effect of laughter.  One way to bring on the charm is to put your man on a natural high by cracking a joke or making a witty comment! 

Making people laugh will make people (cute guys included) want to be around you to get a dose of your feel-good charisma.

Of course, there’s a big difference between laughing at a joke and MAKING one.  However, appearing to be effortless at humor isn’t as hard as you might think.

Don’t assume you need to transform yourself into a standup comic at the drop of a hat.

Generally, a good punch line is the result of properly setting up the joke beforehand.  If you need to explain the punch line after delivering it, it means you didn’t build enough suspense first.

(Think about how some characters on TV bumble a perfectly good joke by explaining too much and adding a “get it, get it?” at the end.)
A good way to build up a joke is by keeping a relatively straight face and suppressing any snickers before dropping the punch line on him.  Otherwise there won’t be any escalation. 

That’s what comedic timing is all about: buttering up the audience and then BAM, you get the drop on them with a well-placed punch line!

Notice how comedians like Conan O’Brien or Tina Fey churn out the funnies.  They like to talk about a mundane news item (the set-up) and then making a zany comment about it (the payoff).

As an aside, avoid making any pop culture references that might alienate or confuse the person you’re talking to.  It’s good to be mindful of the particular person in front of you so he can better relate to your “material”.
However, don’t worry about making leaps and bounds in this particular area of conversation.  Try adapting these habits of humor little by little into your speech. 

Once you hit your stride and finally struck a guy’s funny bone, you’ll notice how easier it is to keep him laughing with a follow-up joke!

One last way to be funny without overdoing it is by doing the “pretend seriousness” routine.  A little lighthearted irony goes a long way with certain folks!

Let’s pretend that your friend introduced you to this incredibly cute guy who happens to be just into music as you are.  So halfway through the conversation he confesses to not having heard about a certain band you absolutely adore.

Take advantage of this opportunity by *playfully* retorting, “Tell me you’re kidding.  Otherwise, I’m gonna have to drag you to my place and make you listen to my (name of band) records until you see the light.  Seriously!”

Admittedly, this approach might not work on everyone, but if he seems like the guy who’s game enough to go along with the fun, then give it a shot!

#4: Converse With an OPEN Ear

Some women might think that listening is just a simple matter of hearing what the other person is telling them.  Truth is, this basic skill we’ve been taught to use over the years is often taken for granted.

Sometimes, we find ourselves zoning out a bit (refer to tip # 2) when we should be PAY ATTENTION in the full sense of the verb.  A typical mistake is to listen on a superficial level and merely use the time the guy is talking to think of something to say.

This might sound like common sense, but I have this to share: you’d have a better chance of saying something worthwhile if you truly listened to what the other person just said.

I’ve told countless friends and colleagues that your genuine attention is a very powerful tool for conversational success!  Really listening to his jokes and stories is a simple but effective way to make him feel good about himself.

And what red-blooded man wouldn’t want to be around a sassy girl that he can associate his GOOD FEELINGS with?

The gift of showing real interest is the direct path to greater rapport in ANY sort of conversation you’re in.  Although our general interest here is to attract men through a good chat, we also have to consider the big picture here.

An attractive woman is someone who can have a great conversation with just about anybody.  When you have a POSITIVE attitude towards the rest of humankind, it’s an indication of how you’d be on a date….
…or as a girlfriend.

If you’re there to talk with ANYONE purely for the pleasure of their company – and NOT because you want their approval – then that sincerity will naturally show. 

People (hunks included) just tend you like more when you want to hang out with them with NO strings attached. 

So what I’m saying here is that you shouldn’t just limit your awesome conversational skills to men alone.  Find an opportunity to flex your social muscles and chat up a storm with the next person you run into!
It doesn’t matter if it’s the nice old lady at the library, the friendly cashier at your favorite coffee place, or your fellow students at yoga class.  Every person out there offers a chance for you to become a more sociable person.

Trust me, this mindset is the sure-fire path to becoming drop-dead gorgeous in the long run!  What have you got to lose after all? 

And part of developing the right mindset is by expanding your knowledge and beliefs about dating, courtesy of Meet Your Sweet’s “Get a Guy Guide”

When you think about it, the cost of “failure” is pretty much ZERO, so get out there and work it!
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Best Sex Positions to Last Longer in Bed - Are You Ready For Enhanced Sexual Endurance With These?

By Lloyd Lester, Creator, EjaculationByCommand.com

Have you been looking for sex positions that will help you fix premature ejaculation and last longer in bed? Well, your search ends here, to use an often-used cliche! There are sex positions that will not only maximize her sexual pleasure, but will also add minutes to your sex without any additional effort! Interested to learn more? I thought so too! Keep reading...

The Best Positions to Last Longer In Bed

Position #1 - "The Surreptitious Female Rider"

This is perhaps the best position for you if you are looking to last longer. Let her mount atop you while having sex. There are 2 advantages to this position:

Greater Control: You can control your arousal completely. This is because this position allows your body to be completely relaxed and stress-free. You are lying on your back and just enjoying the sensations coursing through your body. When you are this relaxed, you can control your arousal whenever you want.

Putting Her In Charge: The best advantage to this position is that she is in charge of the stimulation. Her rhythmic movements might inflame you, but you are in total control of your arousal and you can relax or tighten your pelvic muscles with total ease. How great is that?

Position #2 - "The Reversing Female Rider"

This is another great position you can try out. This is the reverse of Position #1. This is where your partner mounts you, but in a 'facing away' position. You can try this variation after adopting the traditional female rider. It can help vary the stimulation, without losing the fun and pleasure of the act.

So the next time you want to beat premature ejaculation and last longer, without spoiling the fun of the act or making it obvious, try these 2 positions. Vary between the two after a while during lovemaking. This is the best way to enjoy the pleasures that these different positions offer, while maintaining your arousal and erection for a longer time.

How Does A Position Change Help Me Last Longer?

It helps you in 2 ways:

1.  Appearing More Dominant: Women like guys to take charge in bed. So, when you change positions every now and then, you are actually increasing your attraction in bed!

2.  No Obvious Changes: When you are in the middle of an enjoyable sexual encounter, you don't want to do something to distract or annoy her! Subtly changing positions is the best way to manage your arousal, while not appearing too obvious about it. You can use a number of sex positions to both vary your pleasure and to last longer in bed. Try the two variations above and get more out of that love encounter!

About the author:

Lloyd Lester is the creator of "Ejaculation By Command", a complete, step-by-step blueprint to help men permanently end premature ejaculation and last longer in bed. Learn how you can develop superior sexual endurance and enjoy transformative sex by visiting: Ejaculation By Command.

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Have you ever worked with, or have friends who just seem programmed to be at ease with themselves…but are drop-dead gorgeous at the same time?  Has it blown your mind to think how EFFORTLESS it is for some women to be themselves while attracting men left and right??

Are they just blessed with dumb luck, or are they onto something you’re not?

Let’s tackle a few basic traits that generate surefire attraction with the opposite sex:

# 1: Treat yourself like a prize, and he’ll follow suit

An irresistible woman knows that she’s worthy enough of a man’s time, affection, and most of all, RESPECT.  She never seeks out a man because she feels like a relationship will save her.

In fact, her life is so complete that she doesn’t need a guy to fix her or make her whole.  A sassy woman is perfectly fine being single for the moment because she knows that Mr. Right will come along in due time.

There isn’t any need to go into a panic or lower your standards just to make room for a guy who won’t treat you the way you should be.  More importantly, you don’t try attracting a man out of DESPERATION, because that isn’t exactly an endearing quality.

It’s absolutely essential to be a self-referenced woman who doesn’t seek a man out of social pressure.  She allows a man into her life because he makes her happy and adds to her personal growth.

Her relationship doesn’t define her life, but rather enriches it.  The problem with a lot of women is that they often date a man for the former reason and not the latter.

As a result, they’ll act needy and clingy because they’re deathly afraid of being alone, even if it means lowering their standards and putting up with any guy that comes along. 

Acting out of FEAR is never the basis for a healthy, long-term relationship.

Simply put, self-respect is done by placing value on yourself, and that in turn will prompt a quality man to treat you in the same manner.  Otherwise, an attractive woman has no problems showing him the door and moving on with her life.


# 2: Just say “NO” to mind games

 The folly of manipulating a guy is that whatever happiness you’ll get out of toying with his mind will be SHORT-LIVED.  Once you’ve dealt him your best cards and he’s given up chasing after you, then there won’t be much reason to stick around.

So don’t bother adhering to a bunch of stupid rules.  There’s plenty of harmful advice floating out there which are usually created out of specific experiences that don’t apply to everyone.  You might hear that you should NEVER kiss on a first date, or that you must go to bed with him on the third one.

Please, these so-called rules are made by bitter and jaded people who want to protect themselves from getting burned again.  Following these will only result in game-playing, and that is just another word for “manipulation”.

As I’ve just said, deception has no place in a healthy relationship, and anything based on a lie is bound to crumble in the future.  That’s why it’s more important to be a balanced woman instead.  That means no playing “hard to get”, nor should you present him with absolutely no challenge at all. 

An attractive woman is who she is partly because she knows how to strike the middle ground: she doesn’t mess with a man’s head, but neither is she easily won over.

# 3: Get your head out of the clouds

You know, a lot of relationship problems are caused by having unrealistic standards.  When you get caught up in fantasizing about IMPOSSIBLE stereotypes, you’re keeping quality men out of your life.

That’s because NONE of them will be able to measure up to the ideal (read: ridiculously perfect) man living inside that fantasy world of yours!  Seriously, you should learn to temper your expectations with a sense of practicality.

In a parallel universe, all of the men you’ll meet have big arms, ripped abs, stunning chiseled looks, and inexhaustible wealth.  You might think that meeting ALL of those qualities are the ticket to a great relationship, but it’s so much more than that.

Ask yourself: will I be able to have a happy relationship if my man didn’t have (insert trait here)?  If so, then you can either make your standards more realistic or cross out that specific item completely.  If not, then keep it on your list and move on to your other standards.

Pare down your list and stick to the essentials.  In twenty years from now, will a flawless physique still be important, as opposed to emotional maturity, faithfulness, or honesty?  Think about that for a while.
You’re not living in a movie here – this is the real world you’re in.  Don’t wait around for a valiant knight to come barging in and rescue you from the drudge of your daily life. 

You’ll have to do that for yourself.  That takes us to the next irresistible trait, which is to…

#4:  Derive fulfillment and satisfaction from your life, not a relationship

 While a sassy woman will make room for a worthy man in her life, she’s not about to turn her schedule upside-down just to accommodate his preferences.  She has the guts to go on living the way she was before they met.

It’s very important not to lose focus on the other aspects of your life when you get into a relationship.  As we’ve discussed, your life should revolve around what works best for YOU.

Always have your priorities sorted and don’t develop the habit of dropping everything else just for him.  While it’s ok to occasionally move things around for your guy, always leave time for yourself as well adequate room for personal growth.

That’s the problem with a lot of women – once a guy steps into the picture, everything goes haywire.  They forget their family and friends, slack off at work and basically drop off the face of the Earth.

That’s not a healthy way to live your life.  Rather, a relationship should enhance the quality of your life and INSPIRE you to do even better.

Going back to what I mentioned before, whether or not you have a boyfriend at the moment shouldn’t affect the big picture.  Balance your priorities by keeping him in the loop but not to the point where he’s already disrupting your daily existence.

Referring again to our middle-ground metaphor, learn to go out of your way when appropriate but at the same time, avoid appearing too scarce.  Don’t hide from him on purpose just to see how far he’ll chase after you.

You’re better off getting a dog if you’re into that sort of thing.  Remember what I told you about playing games!

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Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

FACT: your BODY is an ESSENTIAL part of being attractive to women. 

There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this matter.  There’s no getting around to maintaining a great body that’ll keep women interested in you.

But before you start panicking, let me just say that it’s NOT what you think.

Maybe you’re already spiraling into a heap of self-pity at the thought of perfectly sculpted male models flaunting their brawn in magazines.  Perhaps seeing those flawless celebrities on TV with screaming women in the background will lead you to think that you can’t possibly measure up to them.

Perhaps you want to scream, “Crikey, hot women will ONLY go for men like THOSE…how could *I* ever hope to date chicks of that caliber?!”

Well my friend, I want you to gather all those pre-conceived notions you have about physical looks and take a sledgehammer to them. 

It’s all part of reprogramming your ideas about seduction and attraction, which begins with Meet Your Sweet’s groundbreaking book for men.

Got it?  OK…

So: if you believe that you have to look like those guys in order to be outrageously attractive, you’re dead wrong.  Look at the world around you and you’ll know I’m right.

Take a stroll around the shopping mall, a park or any other populated area. You’ll find average-looking guys who DON’T look like an actor are holding hands with the hottest babes in the vicinity.

I’m talking about the men who make you think “HOW in the hell did she end up with HIM?”

Are you going to tell me that those men are just a fluke?  Are you going to deny the fact that they simply know something that you DON’T?

Take the shutters off your eyes and realize that you too can pull this off!  If a regular guy (on the outside at least) can date beautiful women, you can surely do the SAME.

The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women. 

Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame.  Well, maybe they’re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.

Those guys live on another plane of reality, so the non-rock star demographic can still score big with the beautiful and brainy ladies.

First of all, you need to wrap your mind around this basic truth: the ability to attract women NEVER comes from an outside factor.  It’s already within you, and all you need is to get accustomed to using these inner traits.

Thus, you need to STOP comparing yourself to other men.  Doing so is the path to madness. 

OF COURSE there’s going to be someone who’s thinner, brawnier, richer, taller, or stronger than you.
BUT does that have anything to do with your own attractiveness?  Does the existence of “better” men statistically reduce your chances to have a sizeable piece of the action?

That’s a big “N” to the “O”.  There are literally millions of women out there, and at least a handful of them will find you attractive.   

Yes, YOU.  They can AND will see you in an attractive light if you unlearn whatever standards of physical beauty you’ve been made to believe in.

Don’t fret about losing ALL the good women to other guys; there’s plenty enough to go around for everyone.

The problem with you guys is that you're primarily into the visual aspect of attraction when it comes to selecting a partner. Before a man finds a girl attractive, she’s gonna have to fit into his particular set of criteria.
This is why some men automatically ASSUME that women think the same way. 

REALITY CHECK: NOT all women need their man to have impossibly good looks to feel attracted to them.

Look, I’m not saying that better-looking guys don’t have an advantage.  But what I am saying is that YOU don’t need those things to attract women yourself.

And I’m not trying to contradict myself by saying that looks ARE important.  It’s just that it’s not important in the way you might THINK it is.

Let me re-frame your concept of looking good.  Physical attributes matter in a “I-look-after-myself-and-care-about-being-a-clean-presentable-man-who-is-serious –about-meeting-women” kind of way.

In other words, it’s more of showing everyone that you have the HABIT of looking the very best you can. 

Even a naturally handsome guy would horribly lower his chances if he let himself go.  You know: not taking a shower, not shaving, letting his fingernails grow disgustingly long, and so on.

Basically, you’re gonna have to be at your physical best, regardless of the mug you were born with.  NO ONE is exempt from this – well, at least those who want to meet and date women.

Let’s get the matter of fitness out of the way.  Even guys who are overweight can get beautiful women, but you’ll have an easier time if you have a relatively proportional body.

Besides, ANY guy will stand to benefit from working out on a regular basis.  But it doesn’t have to be like the inhumanly merciless exercise program that the cast from “300” had to go through. 

You don’t need a six pack, nor are you going to war with the Persian army. 

All you need to do is come up with a reasonable schedule (like 2-3 times weekly) for cardiovascular activity.  Don’t let the age-old “I don’t have time” excuse get in the way.

Even if you weren’t trying to attract women, working out regularly has been clinically proven to greatly reduce the risk of getting all those life-threatening problems you always hear about. 

Not to sound preachy, but if you’re not going to do it for the ladies, at least do it for your own well-being.  Any guy who stuck to a fixed workout schedule is bound to lose a few pounds at the very least!

Just as a warning, don’t try one of those fancy-schmancy diets you might have heard about.  It’s not a good idea to shock your system by radically changing your eating habits.

You’re better off consulting with a licensed dietician, nutritionist or physician for sound and realistic advice on eating healthy.  You could probably stick to working out, but improving your diet (read: not starving yourself) is going to give you quicker results.

Ok, now we move on to DETAILS.  Women love a guy who pays attention to details, so I’ll give you a quick walkthough on this matter.

Let’s talk about HAIR.  Get a reputable stylist to sit you down and figure out which style TRULY matches your facial features and the general shape of your head. 

For instance, guys who are balding should just go all the way and shave their thinning dome.  Don’t let errant, lingering, hairs dampen your sex appeal (think about Bill Murray’s character from the movie “Kingpin”!).

Beards and other forms of facial hair are fine as long as they’re trimmed and properly kept under control.  Unless you’re only interested in fans of “Lord of The Rings”, don’t think that sporting a Gandalf beard is going to improve your chances.

The same goes for hair from the chest downwards.  Modern technology has made it easier for guys to trim these areas, so invest in an electric razor or any other method that will help you in this regard.

Would you want your date to neglect her nether regions as well?  Didn’t think so.  Be a pal and return the favor.

Additionally, watch out for any stay hairs coming out of your ears or nostrils.  Clippers and tweezers don’t cost much, so pick one and get to work.

Your finger and toenails need to be short and free of any grime underneath.  If you have the budget for it, go to a men’s salon because they often include a foot scrubbing service along with the package.  Otherwise, a pair of clippers isn’t going to break the bank.

Crooked or yellowish teeth need to be treated as well.  Check with a specialist on which option will work for your budget.  There are plenty of options out there, such as kits you can use at home, or setting an appointment with a qualified dentist.

Trust me, a polished smile is eye candy to women and they’ll definitely NOTICE it.  So make the effort to do something about this matter.

Clothes are a bit of a tricky subject because everyone has different ideas about fashion.  On a basic level however, your appearance must tell women that you took the time to look good by choosing threads that work best on your frame.

(Again, NOT about physical perfection…)

Generally, clothes with holes and torn seams are a no-no.  Shirts and pants that are old and worn out give the impression that you’re immature and don’t care about looking nice for the ladies.

When it comes to picking out stuff that’ll look good on you, ask your friends and sales staff to help you make a decision.  Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to REALLY figure out the exact kind of clothes that suit your specific body type.

While your socks, shoes, belts, and wallet need to look crisp and neat (no scuffs or other battle damage please), they don’t exactly have to cost you a pretty penny outright. 

Plenty of quality stuff is on sale in most shopping malls, so start looking there.  There’s always a good bargain to be found if you take the time to look!

Lastly, don’t overstuff your pocket.  Try not to put anything in there except for your wallet, cellphone and car keys.  The less bulkier your pockets are, the sharper you look.

And that about does it.  Remember, setting aside enough time for these things will benefit you greatly because it will manifest in how you look. 

Women will see AND appreciate the effort you’ve gone through.  If we’re defined by what we do repeatedly, then imagine what a habit of good style and grooming can do for you.

They don’t even have to say it – you’ll find that they’ll naturally be more open to chatting with you and you’ll have an easier time approaching them.

Furthermore, knowing that you’re at your best will greatly BOOST your self-confidence. 

I mean, wouldn’t you feel more RELAXED and LESS ANXIOUS because you’re aware of how well-put together you are?

In case anyone hasn’t told you, it’s this exact kind of attitude that makes you more eye-catching to women.

Neglecting your looks will make you tense and even apologetic for the very space you’re occupying.  That’s not a very attractive vibe to give off, now is it?

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This empowering guide is a must-have for any guy who wants to be THE MAN when it comes to dating.  The cool thing about it is that it’ll also improve the other areas in your life.

After all, having a confident personality will help you succeed in ALL of your pursuits, whether it’s your career or a relationship.

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